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hello
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everyone my name is eveve Lupine and
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today thanks to zipper magazine we’re
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going to be talking about small penis
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humiliation or S
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pH zipper
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magazine and if you don’t know what that
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is it is a very popular form of verbal
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humiliation in which the receiver has
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their penis consensually ridiculed
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typically due to size though this can
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involve other comments about things like
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performance or the penis’s ability to
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give pleasure the main focus is on the
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size as I said this is a very popular
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form of Kink especially for male
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submissives it is all over pornography
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for male submissives and it’s also a
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very common offering in prodom or
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dominatrix offerings during sessions and
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because of that the stereotypical view
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that people have on SP tend tends to be
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something along the lines of it being
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very cruel and mean and degrading and
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that when you go through a session
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around SP it is miserable while it’s
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happening and you feel bad afterwards
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you don’t really have that positive
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resolution at the end that you might
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with some other Kinks and that is
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certainly a valid way to go about SP and
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one version of it but it’s not the only
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option I personally think you can also
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use SP as a tool for validation
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affirmation and permission giving if you
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want to do that it can be a way to use
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humiliation as a way to get to more
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positive emotions and have some
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affirmation for example it can be a way
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to remind someone that their penis isn’t
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the only way that they can provide
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pleasure to someone it can also be a
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reminder that the reason why their
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partner likes them isn’t just because of
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the package they bring to the table it
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can be a reminder to someone that they
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are a worthy bottom or submissive even
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without their genitals being part of the
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equation and in fact I think one of the
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most common reasons why people enjoy SP
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is because it can be a way of creating a
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safe container for mask folk to explore
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submission in the first place because of
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how tied up very many ideals are in
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masculinity equaling big strong powerful
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penis that is able to give pleasure on
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command and when you erase the penis his
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ability to do that when you negate that
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and you therefore lose your masculinity
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which is seen as synonymous with
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dominance you then can more easily for
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some people at least explore a
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submissive mindset and what it’s like to
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be able to give pleasure to someone and
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make them happy without your penis
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necessarily being involved but keep in
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mind any form of body-based humiliation
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play especially SP can be a very
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triggering area for some folks so if you
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do want to explore this I always
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recommend being very cautious and very
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proactive with your negotiations talk
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about this first do not spring this on
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someone in the middle of otherwise
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vanilla sex because you think that they
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might like it go slowly talk about what
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you want to have happen and what you
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want to have not happen I always
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recommend having very explicit
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guidelines for what you’re aiming for
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during a scene and some key phrases or
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topics to avoid so for example you might
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want to have a conversation where you
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say hey it’s okay to make fun of my size
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but please don’t negatively compare me
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to other past partners or it’s okay to
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point out that I’m very short or that my
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balls look weird but don’t talk about
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the fact that I’m circumcised or not so
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you can have a very detailed
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conversation about this if you want to
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and especially when you’re first
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starting out I recommend being pretty
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conservative with those boundaries
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because you can always make them more
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relaxed later but if you have have a
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very negative experience upfront it’s
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going to
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be time for after care it can be quite
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difficult after a humiliation play scene
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to do some of the typical after care you
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might do with a partner like Words of
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Affirmation so I might recommend for
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example pre-writing out a note your
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partner can read on their own time about
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affirming how much you care about them
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and like them whatever make sense for
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you and your Dynamic so that way they
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can process that on their own and when
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they’re ready to receive that
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information they can but outside of a
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dedicated humiliation play scene what
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are some other beginner ways all the way
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up to Advanced ways you can play with
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small penis humiliation now if you’re a
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total beginner I think the easiest way
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to start with this is by doing what I
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would call a mean [ __ ] this is
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basically the same kind of oral sex you
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might normally be having but the person
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who is giving the oral on the person
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with the penis is mean about it they’re
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making derogatory comments they have a
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scowl on their face they’re acting like
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they don’t really want to be there and
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they’re disappointed with you for having
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them do this in the first place and if
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you prefer more sexual play there are
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lots of other options with this you can
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have this be part of a sounding scene or
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a chastity scene or a pegging scene or
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an orgasm denial scene as well you can
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also do it as part of a service scene or
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body worship because hey if you can’t
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please your partner with your penis
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you’re going to have to find some other
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way to please them right it can also be
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part of a more conventional impact play
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scene especially if you’re playing more
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on the front of the
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th it’s also receiving the verbal
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humiliation and in that case between
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each stroke you might have them say
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something humil ating about their own
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penis and force them to be the one to do
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the humiliation themselves have them be
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creative if they repeat themselves or
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they’re not humiliating enough for your
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taste give them two strokes instead of
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just one you can also do this as part of
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a roleplay scene I think this works
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great with for example medical play
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imagine having a beautiful nurse poke
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and prod you all over you’re totally
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exposed completely vulnerable they’re
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doing all kinds of things with like
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electrical weing implements what’s going
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on and then on top of all of that the
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beautiful nurse is also making fun of
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your penis yeah that’s going to be
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pretty emotionally intense and finally
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if you’re in a long-term power exchange
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relationship there are lots of ways to
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incorporate this with rules protocol
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instructure to go alongside your DS so
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for example you might have a daily
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protocol where you have to say something
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humiliating about your penis in writing
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somewhere maybe in a text message on a
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whiteboard in your house or leaving a
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note with your part partner and this can
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be a good way of inviting a little bit
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of DS back and forth on a daily basis
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you might also have something where for
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example you have body writing you do
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every day as part of a ritual where you
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have to put a humiliating note on
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yourself somewhere where you remind
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yourself about how terrible and small
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and worthless your penises and my
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personal favorite example is when you
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have to refer to your own penis whenever
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you talk about it by a humiliating
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nickname but those are just some
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examples of how you can incorporate SP
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on a more regular basis in your
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relationship and with other kinds of
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play once again thanks to zipper
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magazine for helping me make this video
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please do go ahead and check them out
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and hopefully I will see you all again
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soon
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