{"id":611,"date":"2022-04-30T05:42:53","date_gmt":"2022-04-30T05:42:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/?p=611"},"modified":"2023-05-04T11:19:15","modified_gmt":"2023-05-04T11:19:15","slug":"challenginglimiting-beliefs-through-kink","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/challenginglimiting-beliefs-through-kink\/","title":{"rendered":"Romancing the Shadow: Challenging Limiting Beliefs Through Kink"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"611\" class=\"elementor elementor-611\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-546f604 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"546f604\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1fc202b elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"1fc202b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.6.5 - 27-04-2022 *\/\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}<\/style><h1 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span style=\"font-size: 2.5rem; font-weight: 500; white-space: normal;\">Romancing the Shadow:<\/span><br>Challenging Limiting Beliefs Through Kink<\/h1>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-c08a830 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"c08a830\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-2ea748e\" data-id=\"2ea748e\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-19dcfbe elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"19dcfbe\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.6.5 - 27-04-2022 *\/\n.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-stacked .elementor-drop-cap{background-color:#818a91;color:#fff}.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-framed .elementor-drop-cap{color:#818a91;border:3px solid;background-color:transparent}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap{margin-top:8px}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap-letter{width:1em;height:1em}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap{float:left;text-align:center;line-height:1;font-size:50px}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap-letter{display:inline-block}<\/style>\t\t\t\t<p style=\"text-align: center;\">By Midori<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-426eca6 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"426eca6\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4742173 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"4742173\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! 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I bet you\u2019ve got yours.<\/h6>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c53ab21 e-container--row e-container\" data-id=\"c53ab21\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-cb86479 elementor-hidden-tablet elementor-hidden-mobile e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"cb86479\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t<\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0da1fa7 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"0da1fa7\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-979f7f2 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"979f7f2\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>WHEN SHE WAS A GIRL, V\u2019S MOTHER TOLD HER THAT NO ONE WOULD MARRY HER IF SHE WAS BOSSY AND SAID WHAT SHE THOUGHT. SHE SHOULD BE QUIET AND RESPECTFUL.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0439ffa e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"0439ffa\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9b60586 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"9b60586\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h6>Many are bitter inheritances from our parents, and their parents, and\u2026 Others we received from society at large.<\/h6>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b9c17e5 e-container--row e-container\" data-id=\"b9c17e5\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-16cb36c elementor-hidden-tablet elementor-hidden-mobile e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"16cb36c\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t<\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a4ba9c0 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"a4ba9c0\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ee7b701 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"ee7b701\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>WHEN HE WAS A BOY, M\u2019S FATHER TOLD THEM MEN DON\u2019T CRY, NEVER SHOW FEAR, AND STOP BEING SO SENSITIVE.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3f52625 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"3f52625\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5386c55 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"5386c55\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h6>They fill us with doubt and all sorts of fears. They keep us from our awesomeness within.<\/h6>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e578c60 e-container--row e-container\" data-id=\"e578c60\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c7d44c1 elementor-hidden-tablet elementor-hidden-mobile e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"c7d44c1\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t<\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e8018bb e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"e8018bb\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2330e10 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"2330e10\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>SHE WAS THE HARDEST WORKER IN HER DEPARTMENT, BUT S NEVER ASKED FOR A RAISE. SHE KEPT WAITING FOR THEM TO OFFER IT. SINCE THEY DIDN\u2019T, SHE THOUGHT SHE DIDN\u2019T DESERVE IT.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ca6a905 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"ca6a905\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5d802c2 elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"5d802c2\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a4fefd9 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"a4fefd9\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Can we get past them?\u00a0<br \/>Yes, with a hella lot of work.\u00a0<br \/>There\u2019s no one way, but we have many paths. Therapy, meditation, coaches, peer support, books, journaling, intense sports, and physical practice, just to name a few. All of these, at some point, demand us to take a long hard look into ourselves.\u00a0<\/p><p>How about kink? Can BDSM be a way to challenge our stunting beliefs? Could it give us the strength to get past this garbage?\u00a0<\/p><p>Uh, sometimes, possibly, maybe, likely. Yes\u2026.\u00a0<\/p><p>Why am I hesitating in giving an enthusiastic yes? Because I worry that people will approach BDSM as a quick fix, mistake the elation of play for a panacea, or worse still, claim to relieve others of their struggle.<br \/>There is a possibility of discovery and strength gained in kink play. Is there an instruction manual for a sure-fire way to make the changes you need through BDSM? No. If someone claims to, make sure to look behind the curtain.\u00a0<br \/>Here\u2019s what I know. If I chase it, if I force it, if I try to grasp it, it\u2019ll slip through my fingers. It\u2019s like water in so many ways.\u00a0 But I can share with you my journey and lessons learned.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-60fbf57 elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"60fbf57\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c425504 e-container--row e-container\" data-id=\"c425504\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-dd14571 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"dd14571\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-08bb9fb elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"08bb9fb\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"189\" src=\"https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/subway-01-300x189.png\" class=\"attachment-medium size-medium\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/subway-01-300x189.png 300w, https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/subway-01-768x483.png 768w, https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/subway-01.png 1000w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-45ca50b e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"45ca50b\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f82141f elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"f82141f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-384f89f elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"384f89f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><em>Somewhere along the road of life, during a detour unplanned into a carnival sideshow, I came across a hidden door. It led me to a world just below my surface. <\/em><br \/><em>In this place of shadowy woods, deep within, roam legions of creatures, monsters, and wild things.<\/em><\/p><p><em>The hidden door was kink.<\/em><\/p><p><em>The door would appear from time to time, beckoning. I\u2019d tumble down it, willingly, eagerly.<\/em><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-80c1abd elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"80c1abd\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-786d6a5 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"786d6a5\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6ebd666 elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"6ebd666\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-28462e7 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"28462e7\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Kink play is an experience bound by time, space, and consent of all the participants. It\u2019s a recreational activity intentionally created with defined ordeals and significantly fewer variables and ambiguity than in daily life.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0b79bf9 e-container--row e-container\" data-id=\"0b79bf9\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e7c2af5 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"e7c2af5\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-54a68f1 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"54a68f1\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"196\" height=\"300\" src=\"https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/play-1-196x300.png\" class=\"attachment-medium size-medium\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/play-1-196x300.png 196w, https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/play-1.png 500w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 196px) 100vw, 196px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1b3dc9e elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"1b3dc9e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0b76a3e e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"0b76a3e\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1eb931e elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"1eb931e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h6><em>Why did I jump through that door over and over? <\/em><br \/><em>My reasons were simple: fun, a bit of sexy adventure, a touch of transgression.<\/em><\/h6><h6><em>It would be easy to claim noble intentions for kink in my misspent youth. But that would be an utter fabrication. I was just playing.<\/em><\/h6>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d6bcb72 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"d6bcb72\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d5a0c49 elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"d5a0c49\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0be8f81 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"0be8f81\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h6><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Like my childhood play, kink felt straightforward. I get to spend time with someone I like, making up rules and agreements of the game, while the boring grownups left us alone. Suspension of disbelief unleashed; we got to be whomever we wanted to be, with whatever powers we wanted to have. <\/span><\/h6><h6>I get to be anything, anywhere, and all at once.<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><\/h6>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e7d8320 e-container--row e-container\" data-id=\"e7d8320\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7ed174b e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"7ed174b\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1de3621 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"1de3621\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"106\" height=\"300\" src=\"https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/whoever-106x300.png\" class=\"attachment-medium size-medium\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/whoever-106x300.png 106w, https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/whoever-361x1024.png 361w, https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/whoever.png 500w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 106px) 100vw, 106px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9d7cfcf e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"9d7cfcf\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3462dff elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3462dff\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h6><em>Who do I want to be today? <\/em><br \/><em>A villain, a warlord, Godzilla, the big boss, a princess, Marco Polo, a ninja, Cutie Honey, a scary ghost monster, and even the lone scientist who sees the truth of our reality as an experimental construct created by aliens.<\/em><\/h6><h6><em>(Seriously, all of these, including the last, were my childhood fantasies. And who\u2019s to say they aren\u2019t still?)<\/em><\/h6>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a575046 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"a575046\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d014396 elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"d014396\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b1c8198 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"b1c8198\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h6><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I was a timid, well-mannered, and serious child, navigating a baffling, cold world, with the daily onslaught of prejudice.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/h6><h6><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But in my play and my imagination, everything could be turned upside down and right side of me.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/h6><h6><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">BDSM i<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s a containment field for behavior and desires generally deemed inappropriate or outr\u00e9. It is a laboratory where we can invite, face, and possibly engage with, the shadow-dwelling dangerous parts of ourselves.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/h6><h6><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These parts of me, I call <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">my Monsters<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. <\/span><\/h6>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3540c4a elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"3540c4a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-cbe7298 e-container--row e-container\" data-id=\"cbe7298\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-10c85ca e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"10c85ca\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5eff59c elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"5eff59c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"179\" height=\"300\" src=\"https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/monster-179x300.png\" class=\"attachment-medium size-medium\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/monster-179x300.png 179w, https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/monster.png 500w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 179px) 100vw, 179px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a8fca0e elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"a8fca0e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2bd0612 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"2bd0612\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-49b8bf8 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"49b8bf8\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h6><em>Monsters are real.<\/em><br \/><em>In this world just under my surface, they came to me. <\/em><br \/><em>They stir under my skin, pressing up with terrible claws, throttling my heart.<\/em><\/h6><h6><em>These Monsters, my dark desires, all the ways I should not be or was told not to be.<\/em><\/h6><h6><em>Violent, greedy, selfish, grotesque, large, loud, imperious, wrathful, changing, vulnerable, hard, childish, murderous, hungry, immature, immoral, amoral, irrational, illogical, strange, and scary.<\/em><\/h6>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f562b34 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"f562b34\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-69c4799 elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"69c4799\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-87e99c3 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"87e99c3\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h6><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These desires, these monsters, would slide into my otherwise cheerily naughty play scenes. These creatures would tug at me as I find myself aroused, against my values, by something violent or morally ugly.\u00a0<\/span><\/h6><h6><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It was very unsettling. <\/span><\/h6>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e9d5017 elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"e9d5017\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-dc138f8 e-container--row e-container\" data-id=\"dc138f8\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7395bb6 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"7395bb6\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t<\/div>\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-28062d0 elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"28062d0\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b554d3d e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"b554d3d\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7ba599c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"7ba599c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h6><em>There are so many monsters here. I can\u2019t count them all. These creatures, the multitude contained within me.<\/em><\/h6><h6><em>If I let them out, would they take over me? Are they the real me? Who will I be?<\/em><\/h6>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2b46179 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"2b46179\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-98ea42e elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"98ea42e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Eventually, I realized that they didn\u2019t take me over. But I was changed somehow.<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-75378d4 e-container--row e-container\" data-id=\"75378d4\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-74fd94c e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"74fd94c\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t<\/div>\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7dfd58f elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"7dfd58f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-bdd5bd6 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"bdd5bd6\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-93b9772 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"93b9772\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h6><em>In the aftermath of play, whether it was carnage or beauty, in their retreat to their realm, the Monsters would leave behind pieces of them. These, their gifts, imbued with traces of their powers and essence, nourished me. Returned to me something elemental.<\/em><\/h6><p><em>Tough, space-taking, fearsome, expansive, resilient, clever, fierce, far-seeing, emotional, passionate, creative, void seeking, annihilating, spontaneous, large, ancient, substantial, oracular.<\/em><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-279f79e e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"279f79e\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a1312ba elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"a1312ba\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h6><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In my early days of kink exploration, I played awkwardly at the clich\u00e9 of dominance and submission. In between trying to look like a badass, I nervously checked in with my play partners, usually feeling unsure and unsteady. A bit of spanking, a bit of nipple tweaking, a bit of light bondage.\u00a0<\/span><\/h6><h6><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What I wanted, I couldn\u2019t put words to. What I wanted didn\u2019t fit into the repertoire I saw in the kink scenes around me. So I did the things that my partners asked of me. Of course, they were just as new to kink and didn\u2019t know any better. But I believed that they knew much more than me.<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> In my young life, I also believed others knew better than me about anything, and knew what was best for me. (Spoiler &#8211; They didn\u2019t)<\/span><\/h6><h6><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Something about BDSM drew me but I couldn&#8217;t quite identify it. I had an aching craving but I didn\u2019t know what for.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/h6><h6><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Then I met lovers who wanted their physical endurance pushed, to challenge their flesh and mind. Underneath all my well-acculturated niceness, effortful selflessness, and constant struggle to be fair, lurked a possessive, sadistic, and imperious me. Beautiful, powerful lovers sank to their knees and wished me to symbolically annihilate their ego through pain, ordeal, and feral devotion. I felt my feet root into the earth, my body growing large, electricity charging through my limbs. My stomach churned in anticipation and cunt pulsed. Even now, my heart races as I feel back to those first steps of embracing my dark desires &#8211; to face my own beastly nature.<\/span><\/h6><h6><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Over the years, I realized that letting my Monsters out in play and merging with them briefly, gave me insight into what I am capable of.\u00a0<\/span><\/h6><h6><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Many of my Monsters stood in direct opposition to the limiting beliefs that hold me back.\u00a0<\/span><\/h6><h6><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Powerful against timid. Absurd against serious. Expansive against withdrawn. Standing firm, not weak-kneed. Even wrath and rage have a place in my everyday life for the right situation. In the face of injustice, a whiff of my monstrosity may allow me to see the wrong, to act and not freeze, to resist instead of getting along. <\/span><\/h6>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-454599d e-container--row e-container\" data-id=\"454599d\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a27b910 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"a27b910\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0c5acbc elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"0c5acbc\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"224\" height=\"300\" src=\"https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/cerberus-224x300.png\" class=\"attachment-medium size-medium\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/cerberus-224x300.png 224w, https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/cerberus.png 500w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 224px) 100vw, 224px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6246d6a e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"6246d6a\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2246eb5 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"2246eb5\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h6><em><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Over many years and many scenes, I\u2019ve come to know my monsters, my own glorious horribleness. They are my Cerberus, the three-headed watchdog of Hades. If I don\u2019t pay attention to them, honor them, acknowledge them, they will devour me and wreak havoc in my surface world.\u00a0<\/span><\/em><\/h6>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-39abd4c e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"39abd4c\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-891d7b2 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"891d7b2\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h6><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To deny or attempt to exterminate that part of us turns them against us. Perhaps this is what happened inside casually and senselessly cruel people.<\/span><\/h6>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-22fa477 e-container--row e-container\" data-id=\"22fa477\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-368b434 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"368b434\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t<\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-480462b e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"480462b\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-019f133 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"019f133\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h6><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I know now that I must get to know them. Accept them. Let them out to play from time to time, to accept the willing martyr\u2019s flesh. Stylized destruction, desired ordeals, and eager self-sacrifice; these are the makings of a hot kink scene for me. When the wild things get to know me, come to trust me, they become my ally. In times of true distress or threat, I may call them forth. <\/span><\/i><\/h6>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-14bf747 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"14bf747\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b27ac95 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"b27ac95\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h6><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Today, in situations where those limiting beliefs rise to make me timid, insubstantial, and filled with self-doubt, I know I can access the traces of my own essential monstrosity. When chaos comes my way,<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> I know I can refuse to freeze in indecision. When I would devalue myself, another voice refutes that. When faced with violence, I find the calm of the warrior.\u00a0<\/span><\/h6>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4de2052 e-container--row e-container\" data-id=\"4de2052\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ad1a7a8 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"ad1a7a8\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5c34ac6 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"5c34ac6\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"288\" height=\"218\" src=\"https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/c9aa816e192a9fa06d4ac7cc5a659ade-1.png\" class=\"attachment-full size-full\" alt=\"\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9d3977e e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"9d3977e\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3f8c381 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3f8c381\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h6><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Accepting the monsters, my monstrosity, is accepting my humanity. <\/span><\/i><\/h6>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c947c6a e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"c947c6a\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e8565e2 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"e8565e2\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h6><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don\u2019t get me wrong. I\u2019m no Bodhisattva. <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This doesn\u2019t mean that I\u2019m entirely comfortable with them taking up space in my everyday consciousness. Sometimes I have to call a \u201cfamily meeting\u201d with these messy creatures I share this body with. <\/span><\/h6>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ee1a534 e-container--row e-container\" data-id=\"ee1a534\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6d4e6f2 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"6d4e6f2\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-044cd72 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"044cd72\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"114\" src=\"https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/mosnters-I-300x114.png\" class=\"attachment-medium size-medium\" alt=\"\" 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