{"id":4094,"date":"2022-05-11T11:06:22","date_gmt":"2022-05-11T11:06:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/?p=4094"},"modified":"2023-01-04T09:30:59","modified_gmt":"2023-01-04T09:30:59","slug":"why-you-need-bdsms-prime-directive","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/why-you-need-bdsms-prime-directive\/","title":{"rendered":"Why You Need BDSM\u2019s \u201cPrime Directive\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"4094\" class=\"elementor elementor-4094\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-55e5f21 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"55e5f21\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a515511 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"a515511\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.6.5 - 27-04-2022 *\/\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}<\/style><h1 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Why You Need BDSM's \"Prime Directive\"<\/h1>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-578a46c elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"578a46c\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-6bf596c\" data-id=\"6bf596c\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b21e652 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"b21e652\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.6.5 - 27-04-2022 *\/\n.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-stacked .elementor-drop-cap{background-color:#818a91;color:#fff}.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-framed .elementor-drop-cap{color:#818a91;border:3px solid;background-color:transparent}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap{margin-top:8px}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap-letter{width:1em;height:1em}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap{float:left;text-align:center;line-height:1;font-size:50px}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap-letter{display:inline-block}<\/style>\t\t\t\t<p style=\"text-align: center;\">By <br \/><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Mollena <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Williams-Haas<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-426eca6 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"426eca6\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4742173 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"4742173\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.6.5 - 27-04-2022 *\/\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}<\/style>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"313\" src=\"https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/Collage-2-1.png\" class=\"attachment-large size-large\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/Collage-2-1.png 1024w, https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/Collage-2-1-300x117.png 300w, https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/Collage-2-1-768x300.png 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6b3a9e4 e-container--row e-container\" data-id=\"6b3a9e4\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-50a7c86 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"50a7c86\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-aafbe4d elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"aafbe4d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"250\" height=\"430\" src=\"https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/VM-NEW-YES.gif\" class=\"attachment-large size-large\" alt=\"\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-27c47e3 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"27c47e3\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-fb68927 elementor-widget elementor-widget-audio\" data-id=\"fb68927\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"audio.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-soundcloud-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t<iframe loading=\"lazy\" width=\"800\" height=\"200\" frameborder=\"no\" src=\"https:\/\/w.soundcloud.com\/player\/?visual=false&#038;url=https%3A%2F%2Fapi.soundcloud.com%2Ftracks%2F1270666378&#038;show_artwork=true&#038;maxheight=1000&#038;maxwidth=800&#038;auto_play=false&#038;buying=false&#038;liking=false&#038;download=false&#038;sharing=true&#038;show_comments=false&#038;show_playcount=false&#038;show_user=true&#038;color\"><\/iframe>\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5108d91 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"5108d91\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f62af9b elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"f62af9b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I grew up finding proselytization abhorrent. I was raised in a church dedicated to a deity who never managed to capture my heart or soul, and the missionary work that is often required of \u201cChristian youth\u201d sent me into a confused, shameful panic. I always felt people need to find that which nourishes them, that god sure as hell didn\u2019t need my help doing his thing. The public singing and tract distribution required of me when my Dad pushed us to join the Salvation Army was an absolute nightmare and I promised myself I would never ever try to sell my beliefs to others.<\/span><\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Then I discovered i was kinky, and all of that went out of the window.<\/span><\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not because I wanted to drag everyone down to the dungeon and convince them that kinky sexytimes are the One True Way to Absolute Delight and Enlightened Bliss. Kink is NOT for everyone. What CAN BE for everyone are many of the pillars and ethical approaches that are frequently applied within our communities in order to continually strive to maintain mental, spiritual, emotional, and physical balance and safety. Once I began to learn these rules and guidelines, I began to feel that so much of what happens in the BDSM world needed to be brought to light and shared with the world. I still have the fantasy of becoming the Oprah Winfrey of Kink so as to spread The Good Words of Active, Informed Consent, Radical Self-Care, Emotional Safe-Words, and <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The Prime Directive<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you look at Power Exchange relationships, that is, relationships that are based on someone giving over control of some facet<\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> (or all aspects!)<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> of their lives to another, it seems obvious whose needs, wants, and desires come first. The master over the slave, the dominant over the submissive, top over the bottom. Or is it? You look at someone who is obedient to another person, serves their whims and wishes, and follows their commands. This seems straightforward: one takes, the other gives . . . pretty cut-and-dried.<\/span><\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p><p>But the fact is there are responsibilities on both sides of the coin. The submissive or slave in a power exchange relationship doesn\u2019t just sign their love, body, mind, and soul away to some heartless emotional juggernaut bent on absolute domination!<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p><p>Well, not for very long, if they do.<\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Language is important here. Look at the term I used to describe these consensual M\/S (master\/slave) and D\/S (dominant\/submissive) relationships. It is a power <\/span><b><i>EXCHANGE<\/i><\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Not a power coup d&#8217;etat. Not a power grab. There is ebb and flow, yin and yang to these relationships. We are, first and foremost, humans interacting with one another. And acknowledging that all of us humans have human needs, human wants, and human desires is vital to the development of a healthy power exchange relationship.<\/span><\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It seems like giving up power to another person is a surefire recipe for disaster. As Lord Acton once said:<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-81bf6cb e-container--row e-container\" data-id=\"81bf6cb\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d4ea95d e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"d4ea95d\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t<\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9d5aab9 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"9d5aab9\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-813f383 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"813f383\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&#8220;Power tends to corrupt, and absolute power corrupts absolutely.&#8221;<\/span><\/i><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-978e07b e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"978e07b\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t<\/div><\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0cb73d9 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"0cb73d9\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3d61e55 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3d61e55\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There needs to be a check-and-balance system in place: some way to calibrate the dynamic when things tip out of kilter. It would seem that there is a catch-22 here. How can one be in service, be subservient and obey while still standing up for and protecting one\u2019s self?<\/span><\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Back when I first entered service and began exploring a formal M\/S dynamic, I was given a bunch of guidelines; lists of \u201cDo This Not That.\u201d Pillars, Rules, and Protocols to memorize. All of these have fallen away in the intervening 25 years . . . save one. The core principle on which I base my consensual slavery&#8230;my humane servitude to another human being, is <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The Prime Directive<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Chill the fuck out, fellow <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/trekcreative.fandom.com\/wiki\/Prime_Directive#:~:text=Prime%20Directive%201%20Life%20is%20sacred.%20Do%20what,not%20the%20universal%20way.%20...%20More%20items...%20\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Trekkers\u2122<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> I&#8217;m not saying that submissives are abjured against interfering in pre-warp cultures. Of course, I wouldn&#8217;t want to go up against a Starfleet court-martial over it either.<\/span><\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The Prime Directive, amongst many in the kink, leather, and BDSM communities is a guiding principle that rather elegantly creates a protocol designed to keep the slave\/submissive safe and healthy, facilitates compassionate dominance, and supports a well-balanced power exchange<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">relationship <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">(or PE, for brevity&#8217;s sake)<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are many iterations of The Prime Directive, but the one I have settled on in my practice is the following:<\/span><\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&#8220;It is the primary responsibility of the slave to protect the master&#8217;s property at all times, up to and including protecting the property from the master themselves.&#8221;<\/span><\/i><\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whatever your dynamic, however you exchange power, this system is a brilliant way to provide a fail-safe when things get rocky, or are in flux. What this does is place in the hands of the submissive the power and responsibility to prioritize their own well-being. And to remain active in handling issues as they arise, not sit on issues until they have the opportunity to fester and mutate into even scarier monsters.<\/span><\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This concept easily bleeds out into the Default World. Once you have seen the amazingness of radical self-care, you cannot unsee that shit. I began to truly realize how culturally most of us are not raised to prioritize our own needs. Sacrifice is often elevated to an unhealthy, lofty goal. That religious upbringing I mentioned? The religion that stresses \u201cturning the other cheek\u201d and who has, as their main icon, an<\/span><b><i> ancient torture device?!?<\/i><\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Not gonna teach me to take care of Mollena first and foremost.<\/span><\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I had a friend who is a single mom and we were chatting online about the sacrifices she has to make for her children. \u201cBut that\u2019s what you have to do. My kids are my life. It\u2019s not about me\u2026\u201d my friend said. I understood her point but countered, \u201cDude. Prime Directive. Let me lay some shit on you.\u201d<\/span><\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I explained to her how we pervs managed the risk of emotional martyrdom by using this tool. She was dubious. \u201cI have to sacrifice for them, regardless. They come first.\u201d<\/span><\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p><p>\u201cHey look. I\u2019m not saying leave the kids at doggie daycare and go to Vegas for a week with the cabana boy.\u201d I insisted. \u201cI\u2019m saying make sure you take care of yourself. If you burn yourself out, who the hell is gonna take care of those kids then?\u201d<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p><p>It might seem terribly romantic to sacrifice yourself, your time, your body, in service to another. It is very fulfilling, for many people, to push themselves in their service. Those who eroticize the exchange of power often thrive in a situation where they can sometimes experience privation and hardship. It can be a means to growth.<\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p><p>However.<\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p><p>If your physical, emotional, and spiritual health are not in order? You aren\u2019t doing anyone any damned favors.<\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p><p>Some people are highly skilled and adept at making their feelings known. But all of us have times where, for whatever reason, it is just so difficult to share a problem. We would rather suck it up, buttercup, and suffer in silence rather than say \u201cI\u2019m having a problem. I need help.\u201d For submissives, it can be even more challenging. Many people who identify as submissive or as a slave will prioritize their master or owner over themselves, without mindfulness, because they think that is what it takes to be a \u201cgood\u201d submissive or consensual slave. But sacrifice made from fear is an incubator for resentment.<\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p><p>How elegant it is when the person who owns you says, \u201cYou are mine. And as my property, and the most precious property I could possibly be pleased to own, your <i>first <\/i>job is to maintain my property. To be transparent with me, to tell me honestly how you are, to share with me when you are struggling: this is how you please me. And furthermore? NOT telling me if you are troubled or struggling is in direct conflict with my wishes.\u201d<\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pretty fucking brilliant, no?<\/span><\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Believe me, this is a practice, a meditation. Until I was charged with emotional transparency, I never realized how much I stuffed down when I was sad, or angry, or frustrated. I feared I would be rejected if I wasn\u2019t \u201cperfect.\u201d This was reinforced when I became involved in the BDSM community; I read so many books, so much fantasy that supported the idea that simply enduring in graceful, grateful silence was the lot of a \u201creal slave.\u201d<\/span><\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But, with experience, I have seen how the seemingly oxymoronic Prime Directive actually means that masters and dominant types are able to fulfill their roles more effectively. A compassionate owner wants the best for their property. And they aren\u2019t bloody mind-readers. I know, I know . . . some of them seem to be! It is critical that the owner knows that the person in service is capable of managing fear, anger, and resentment by shoveling and sharing their shit. And it is even more important that the slave\/submissive-type person trust that this transparency, that honoring the relationship by honoring The Prime Directive, will be met with respect and compassion, and good faith by their owner.<\/span><\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For the dominant types? Give your submissive-type property this tool. We s-types will go to the ends of the Earth for you. By empowering us to filter our service to you through being in service to ourselves, we can bloom, thrive, and serve you with more power, deeper joy, and stronger trust. Fostering an environment in which a submissive hides their difficulties is a seed that will spring into a choking, twisting kudzu of bitter discontent that will strangle the roots of your relationship.<\/span><\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Within power exchange relationships, these checks and balances can mean the difference between healthy, nurturing, loving relationships and stressful, emotionally troublesome interactions. Applying The Prime Directive can help guide you in your mission to explore strange new worlds of kink, and to boldly go where no pervert has gone before.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ea64ffd e-container--row e-container\" data-id=\"ea64ffd\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5c8c560 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"5c8c560\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5c13cd9 elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"5c13cd9\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.6.5 - 27-04-2022 *\/\n.e-container.e-container--row 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srcset=\"https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/Moella-Logo--257x300.jpg 257w, https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/Moella-Logo--768x897.jpg 768w, https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/Moella-Logo-.jpg 857w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 257px) 100vw, 257px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0870cdb elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"0870cdb\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Mrs. Mollena Lee Williams-Haas\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-11c8910 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"11c8910\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Mrs. Mollena Lee Williams-Haas is a multi-hyphenate mashup of award-winning writer-performer, International BDSM\/Alternative-Lifestyle Educator and Titleholder, screenwritter\/librettist\/playwright, Consensual Slave\/Muse, Sobriety advocate, Storyteller, Kink Doula and Podcaster. Actively involved in BDSM since 1995 and with a professional career as a performer since the age of 6, she has decades of seemingly divergent interests and lives that have converged gorgeously to her current incarnation. Try to keep up with her adventures on her podcast, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/allthatandmo.com\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">All That And Mo<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Follow her on <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@mollenaleewilliamshaas\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">TikTok<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/mollena_lee_williams_haas\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Instagram<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/mollena\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Twitter <\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">and peruse years of her pontifications on <\/span><a href=\"http:\/\/mollena.com\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ThePervertedNegress.com<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. You can actively support her work by becoming a sponsor on <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.patreon.com\/MollenaLeeWilliamsHaas\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Patreon<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">!<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-718e747 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"718e747\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t<\/div>\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-9b3e4d8 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"9b3e4d8\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-9772c57\" data-id=\"9772c57\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap 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