{"id":12138,"date":"2022-07-11T12:13:52","date_gmt":"2022-07-11T12:13:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/?p=12138"},"modified":"2023-05-30T11:46:04","modified_gmt":"2023-05-30T11:46:04","slug":"better-dominant-seduce-your-sub","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/better-dominant-seduce-your-sub\/","title":{"rendered":"Want to be a Better Dominant? Learn to Seduce your Sub"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"12138\" class=\"elementor elementor-12138\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-55e5f21 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"55e5f21\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a515511 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"a515511\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.6.5 - 27-04-2022 *\/\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}<\/style><h1 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Want to be a Better Dominant? <\/h1>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-1dafc7a elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"1dafc7a\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-c2f9365\" data-id=\"c2f9365\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c5beea8 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"c5beea8\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h1 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Learn to Seduce your Sub <\/h1>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-e17c8b1 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"e17c8b1\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-3ac0d13\" data-id=\"3ac0d13\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2b31437 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"2b31437\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.6.5 - 27-04-2022 *\/\n.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-stacked .elementor-drop-cap{background-color:#818a91;color:#fff}.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-framed .elementor-drop-cap{color:#818a91;border:3px solid;background-color:transparent}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap{margin-top:8px}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap-letter{width:1em;height:1em}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap{float:left;text-align:center;line-height:1;font-size:50px}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap-letter{display:inline-block}<\/style>\t\t\t\t<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><em>By <\/em><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Marla Renee Stewart, MA<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-426eca6 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"426eca6\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4742173 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"4742173\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.6.5 - 27-04-2022 *\/\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}<\/style>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"313\" src=\"https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/seduxion-II-1024x400.png\" class=\"attachment-large size-large\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/seduxion-II-1024x400.png 1024w, https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/seduxion-II-300x117.png 300w, https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/seduxion-II-768x300.png 768w, https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/seduxion-II.png 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-a13e944 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"a13e944\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-1c424b2\" data-id=\"1c424b2\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7088b81 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"7088b81\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<a href=\"https:\/\/www.clips4sale.com\/\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"250\" height=\"430\" src=\"https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/VM-NEW-YES.gif\" class=\"attachment-large size-large\" alt=\"\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5108d91 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"5108d91\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f62af9b elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"f62af9b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Let\u2019s talk about it: There\u2019s nothing more irritating than a finicky sub who cherishes the ground you walk on one minute and ghosts you the next.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I find this scenario to be all too common amongst some of the kink clients I coach who have a hard time keeping an s-type around. Finding a good sub is not an easy task, but when you happen upon the right fit, it can be mutually fulfilling for years to come.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A lot of us dominants love consistency. We love when we know a person\u2019s body and the limits they have in regards to pain, pleasure, and kinky practice. We can also be simple sometimes; we love power, we love control, and for the sadists, we love to consensually punish and inflict pain. This is what gives us pleasure. And when our sub is in a mutual space, benefits from the exchange, and shares in that pleasure, the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/why-you-need-bdsms-prime-directive\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">bond is magical<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The issue with D-types is that sometimes we become too eager and want to skip the kinky foreplay. We jump directly to what feels self-gratifying and that\u2019s the problem. We can\u2019t skip the foreplay, it\u2019s essential. It\u2019s the part that helps us build trust, safety, security, and can help our sub get emotionally ready for the scene. Being emotionally present helps us get psychologically and physically present. I believe there\u2019s no better way to do this than with thoughtful erotic intention and brazen sensuality.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This starts with seduction.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But before we get to the juicy stuff, it\u2019s worthy to note what is anti-seductive. Although this can change from person to person, in general, there are some broad-stroking traits that are typically seen as anti-seductive, like being self-absorbed, being judgmental, and being a total opposite of the person that you\u2019re interested in. Even though we may have negative qualities that we don\u2019t like about ourselves, that we see as anti-seductive, or that others have told us are anti-seductive, these things are often subjective. What might be anti-seductive to you might be seductive to another person, so this is something to be aware of when you\u2019re negotiating play with your potential sub.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b2b3401 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"b2b3401\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;,&quot;motion_fx_motion_fx_scrolling&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;,&quot;motion_fx_scale_effect&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;,&quot;motion_fx_scale_speed&quot;:{&quot;unit&quot;:&quot;px&quot;,&quot;size&quot;:0,&quot;sizes&quot;:[]},&quot;motion_fx_scale_range&quot;:{&quot;unit&quot;:&quot;%&quot;,&quot;size&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;sizes&quot;:{&quot;start&quot;:36,&quot;end&quot;:68}},&quot;motion_fx_scale_direction&quot;:&quot;out-in&quot;,&quot;motion_fx_devices&quot;:[&quot;desktop&quot;,&quot;tablet&quot;,&quot;mobile&quot;]}\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6c854e2 elementor-headline--style-highlight elementor-widget elementor-widget-animated-headline\" data-id=\"6c854e2\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;marker&quot;:&quot;underline&quot;,&quot;highlighted_text&quot;:&quot; Explained&quot;,&quot;headline_style&quot;:&quot;highlight&quot;,&quot;loop&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;,&quot;highlight_animation_duration&quot;:1200,&quot;highlight_iteration_delay&quot;:8000}\" data-widget_type=\"animated-headline.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<link rel=\"stylesheet\" href=\"https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/wp-content\/plugins\/elementor-pro\/assets\/css\/widget-animated-headline.min.css\">\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-headline\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-headline-plain-text elementor-headline-text-wrapper\">D-Type & s-Type<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-headline-dynamic-wrapper elementor-headline-text-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-headline-dynamic-text elementor-headline-text-active\"> Explained<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t<\/h3>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-37c1ed5 elementor-widget__width-initial elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"37c1ed5\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Definitions of specific <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/non-binary-bdsm-names-dom-sub\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">BDSM roles and titles<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> vary from person to person. They can be fluid too, meaning, it\u2019s possible for someone to be a Dominant who bottoms or a submissive who\u2019s a sadist. This subjectivity is why these umbrella terms for Dominant\/submissive (D\/s) roles come in handy.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes referred to as the \u201cleft side of the slash,\u201d D-types generally identify with dominant kink roles including Dom\/Domme, Owner, Master\/Mistress, Top, Sadist, Mommy\/<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/zippermagazine.com\/beyond-dd-lg-the-versatility-of-daddy-play\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Daddy<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, etc.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Those that identify with the \u201cright side of the slash\u201d are called s-types. They typically include obedience-oriented roles like submissive\/sub, pet, property, slave, masochist, or bottom.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9ddd29f e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"9ddd29f\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-02a5071 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"02a5071\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h2><strong>What is Seduction?<\/strong><\/h2><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Seduction in Latin means \u201cto lead astray.\u201d It is the art of teasing, pleasing, and getting someone to do what you want them to do via the tactics you use. But this isn\u2019t about pick-up artist type of seduction. The seduction I\u2019m speaking about is a consensual, mutual connection through the use of various strategies that pertain to your sexual assets. Basically, use what you got to get what you want.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That means there is no one great way to be a good seducer. We all can be great seducers, but our strategies are going to differ.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So get your pen and paper out and write down the answers to these questions to help you gain clarity and insight about why subs would want to pick you out of a Dom line-up:<\/span><\/p><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What are your kinks?<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What do you specialize in?<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What are your assets when it comes to kink? What are you good at?<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When people respond the way you want them to, what are you doing?<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How are people attracted to you when it comes to play?<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What are the things that have kept subs coming back to you for more play?<\/span><\/li><\/ul><p>\u00a0<\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now that you have those answers, it\u2019s time to figure out more about yourself. Understanding your Seduction Learning Style\u00a9 will help identify what your sub should be doing to connect in more meaningful ways with you. Learning these tactics will also help you better seduce your sub.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8098287 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"8098287\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-12f1d22 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"12f1d22\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;motion_fx_motion_fx_scrolling&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;,&quot;motion_fx_scale_effect&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;,&quot;motion_fx_scale_speed&quot;:{&quot;unit&quot;:&quot;px&quot;,&quot;size&quot;:1,&quot;sizes&quot;:[]},&quot;motion_fx_scale_direction&quot;:&quot;out-in&quot;,&quot;motion_fx_scale_range&quot;:{&quot;unit&quot;:&quot;%&quot;,&quot;size&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;sizes&quot;:{&quot;start&quot;:20,&quot;end&quot;:80}},&quot;motion_fx_devices&quot;:[&quot;desktop&quot;,&quot;tablet&quot;,&quot;mobile&quot;]}\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><a href=\"http:\/\/velvetlipssexed.com\/quiz\">Take the quiz<\/a><span style=\"text-decoration-line: underline;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/velvetlipssexed.com\/quiz\"> here <\/a><\/span><a href=\"http:\/\/velvetlipssexed.com\/quiz\">to find out your Seduction Learning Style\u00a9<\/a><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-77efc53 e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"77efc53\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ba125f5 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"ba125f5\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">After taking the quiz, you\u2019ve figured out a style that describes how you get turned on \u2013 visual, auditory, or tactile. Now let\u2019s talk about your sub, or potential sub, and how to turn them on!<\/span><\/p><h2>\u00a0<\/h2><h2><strong>Visual Seduction Learning Style<\/strong><\/h2><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your submissive is mostly visual, connect with them in these ways:<\/span><\/p><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Make prolonged eye contact during your scene and pre-scene.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Make sure that the place that you\u2019re doing the scene in is neat and everything has its place. If you have a lot of tools and toys, have your sub lay them out neatly. If they really adore order, direct them to put them in the order they would like. To impose some psychological sadism, ensure that you don\u2019t actually use them in order! This will heighten their anxiety, but talking about it in aftercare may ease that tension and rekindle that trust.\u00a0<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you\u2019re negotiating a scene, talk very descriptively about what you want to do them. The goal is to paint a picture in their mind\u2019s eye. Use plenty of adjectives and vividly describe the scenes with colors and the types of objects that you\u2019ll use.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Make sure that you dress the part! Fashionable attire and accessories are sexy to visual subs and make for excellent memories!<\/span><\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c722afe e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"c722afe\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3bcb966 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"3bcb966\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">\"We can\u2019t skip the foreplay, it\u2019s essential. It\u2019s the part that helps us build trust, safety, security, and can help our sub get emotionally ready for the scene.\"<\/p>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7a3817a e-container--column e-container\" data-id=\"7a3817a\" data-element_type=\"container\">\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-80f1853 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"80f1853\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h2><strong>Auditory Seduction Learning Style<\/strong><\/h2><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your submissive is mostly auditory, you can connect with them in these ways:<\/span><\/p><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you\u2019re talking to them, talk slowly and in low, soft, deep tones. Make them hang on to every word you say.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Get in tune with your kink talk. Whether that\u2019s talking dirty, or praise kink, give them soundbites that will have them craving your attention over and over again. Remember to use inflections, broaden your kink vocab, and veer towards words that have multiple syllables. You also will want to ask them questions and give them feedback for any behaviors during the scene. You can do this while whispering in their ear and letting them hear your deep moans or breathy tones.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Make sure that your kink playlist has all their favorite songs. If it\u2019s someone new, ask them if they like a type of genre with their kink and make them a playlist accordingly.<\/span><\/li><\/ul><h2>\u00a0<\/h2><h2><strong>Tactile Seduction Learning Style<\/strong><\/h2><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It wouldn\u2019t be surprising if your sub was tactile, as a lot of kinksters tend to lean in this direction. You can connect with them in these ways:<\/span><\/p><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you touch them with your hands, you want to make sure that you use a variety of touches. Include feather-like touches, as well as pressurized touches using the palms of your hands and your fingertips. You can also use other types of body parts to press against your sub so that they can be present with you and be receptive to your direction.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Keep your sub active! For instance, if you\u2019re doing rope bondage, use the rope to move them around and play. Or if they are a service sub, always have something that they can do to keep busy. If you are doing some impact play, have them move into different positions and places to keep their mind stimulated and present.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Use varied objects on their body. From a stingy rubber flogger to a thuddy wooden paddle, the possibilities are endless when it comes to kink accouterments. You can engage in temperature play, wax, or even use different objects of varied materials, from silicone to glass to stainless steel.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You also will want to create erotic tension. One way to do this is by using a soft push paired with a hard pull. Doing it on various parts of the body such as the neck and hip is sure to draw and keep their attention on you.<\/span><\/li><\/ul><h2>\u00a0<\/h2><h2><strong>Kink Seeds &amp; Extended Emotional Foreplay<\/strong><\/h2><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now that you know about your submissive\u2019s Seduction Learning Style\u00a9, it\u2019s important to continually emotionally engage and set yourself up for success. You do this by planting a sex\/kink seed. <\/span><a href=\"http:\/\/bit.ly\/VLkinklist\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Find out what they would like to try on their kink list<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and then play the long(ish) game.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For instance, if your sub wants to try blindfolding and they are a tactile person, plan some quality playtime with them on a Saturday, but start the foreplay on Monday by planting the kink seed. You could buy a few different blindfolds with different features (fuzzy, silky, satin, mesh, elastic) and ask them to touch them to see which one they like the best. Do this in a casual manner (during a shared dinner or on the couch), so that there\u2019s no sexual or kink pressure, and then take them away just as casually and put them in a place where they wouldn\u2019t look. On maybe Tuesday or Wednesday, you take the blindfold they like and put it somewhere they can see it; in a conspicuous place so they take notice and it gets their mind ready to experience something new.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This also helps with creating dialogue throughout the week plus gives you the opportunity to be creative with your long game.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ask yourself: <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What are the ways that I can create a visual kink seed? What are the ways that I can create an auditory kink seed? What are the ways that I can create a tactile sex seed?<\/span><\/i><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here\u2019s the thing &#8211; diversity and unpredictability make you more alluring and increase the probability of your sub responding favorably to your seductive propositions in the future. This means adding something new to each and every experience that is pleasantly unexpected. What can you do creatively that would add more depth and value to your experience with one another?<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To keep them coming back for more, you always want to give them more than what they anticipated; that way, they\u2019ll look forward to the unexpected. 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href=\"https:\/\/www.marlareneestewart.com\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Marla Renee Stewart, MA<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> (she\/her) is a professional sexologist, intimacy\/relationship\/sex coach, speaker, and author. She is the owner of <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.velvetlipssexed.com\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Velvet Lips<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, a sexuality education company, as well as Contract Liberation, a company focused on research for non-profit groups. As a faculty member at Clayton State University, she teaches Sociology and Women\u2019s and Gender Studies. As the Co-Founder of the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.sexdownsouth.com\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sex Down South Conference<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, Marla aims to bring diverse groups together to learn and share their experiences in the essence of being authentic and fostering sexual liberation across communities.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Marla has studied human sexuality for over 20 years, has educated over 20,000 people in over 13 years, given over 500 workshops, and has served over 100 clients in her private practice, all around the world. She has had her influence in the media, as well; she has written over 200 articles, featured in over 20 magazines and books, and has been on over 60 podcasts and independent television shows. She was featured on <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.netflix.com\/Title\/80144442\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Netflix\u2019s Trigger Warning with Killer Mike<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, VH1&#8217;s Love &amp; HipHop Atlanta, and filmed as a sex expert for GPB&#8217;s Personal Injury Court and Oxygen&#8217;s Bad Girls Club: Atlanta. In addition, she also sits on the Boards for <\/span><a href=\"http:\/\/www.sparkrj.org\/marla-renee-stewart\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">SPARK Reproductive Justice NOW!<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/dsrei.org\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Diverse Sexualities and Research Education Institute<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">She co-wrote her first book, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.barnesandnoble.com\/w\/the-ultimate-guide-to-seduction-foreplay-jessica-oreilly-phd\/1134703838\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The Ultimate Guide to Seduction &amp; Foreplay<\/span><\/i><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> (2020) with Dr. Jessica O\u2019Reilly and wrote a chapter and co-edited <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/read.amazon.com\/kp\/embed?asin=B09MG86PJS&amp;preview=newtab&amp;linkCode=kpe&amp;ref_=cm_sw_r_kb_dp_GCDHKM5TW17S0QKVHW32\"><i><span 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