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How To Explore Your Foot Fetish

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How To Explore Your Foot Fetish

By Mark Hay

Foot Fetish

Year Introduced: 2003

Sales Rank: 9

Total Clips: 227500

Top Search Term: Foot worship

Related Fetishes:

Tickling, Femdom, High Heels, Pedal Pumping, Food and Object Crush

Thanks to the stigmas surrounding foot fetishes, many people who feel a pull towards feet—for any reason and at any stage of their sexual journey—hesitate or struggle to explore this erotic impulse. Even Archer Legend, today a prolific foot fetish content creator, told Zipper that, while he harbored an interest in feet “from an early age,” he hid and suppressed that side of himself for fear of being labeled a weirdo and for lack of a sense of community until he “got on the internet when I was 30 years old and realized I was not alone.” But these days, it’s pretty easy to explore a foot fetish without any major risk of ridicule or stigmatization, thanks to a proliferation of content, affinity groups, online forums, and the gradual normalization of the kink.

The first step, Legend explained, is simply accepting that you’re interested in feet. A foot fetish doesn’t have to define you or your sex life, he added. You can engage in it however you want to—and you don’t have to know exactly how you want to interact with feet from the get-go. You can explore in your own way, at your own pace, and potentially unlock a world of pleasure.

If you're uncomfortable with a party setting, you can also book a session with a kink professional, virtually or in person, to engage in one-on-one, controlled foot play.

Be Upfront About Your Foot Fetish

If you already have one or more partners you trust, then the easiest way to start exploring the fetish is often telling them about your interest in feet and the things you want to try, Top Toes in Hose, the co-host of Oh Those Toes, a foot fetish-focused podcast, told Zipper. That disclosure may be scary, but this sort of vulnerability often brings us closer to our partners—who are usually more than willing to help us explore our kinks, provided we’re equally open to theirs.

Legend added that you can also broach the topic with prospective new partners, including short-term hookups. Foot fetishes are common enough and increasingly mainstream, so even a casual or one-time partner may be willing to play and explore with you. But Legend acknowledged this would not be a comfortable—or safe—avenue for everyone to explore.

Connect with the Foot Fetish Community

Whether you don’t have a partner to explore the fetish with, or you just want to talk to a wide array of people who share your fetish, then most of the fetishists Zipper spoke to recommend searching for “foot fetish” on platforms like FetLife, Reddit, and Twitter. Dozens of communities will pop up, which you can explore freely for a while, eventually joining the one that feels the most resonant with your desires and welcoming to your social sensibilities.

You can also search for foot fetish content and models on clip and cam sites. Exploring content is often a great way to learn about the fetish’s many permutations and determine which appeals to you.

If you’re ready to move beyond the digital realm but don’t have a partner or any partners comfortable with foot play, you may want to consider attending a foot party, which suggests foot fetishist and content creator Soles Scream. At these parties, you’ll be surrounded by people who share your fetish and foot models who, usually for a small fee, will allow you to interact with their feet in well-defined ways. (Soles Scream added that it’s entirely possible to attend these parties if you have a partner—you just need to make sure your partner(s) understand why you want to attend, are cool with your rationale, and have set out clear boundaries, within the context of your relationship dynamics, for what you can and can’t do with models.) If you’re uncomfortable with a party setting, you can also book a session with a kink professional, virtually or in person, to engage in one-on-one, controlled foot play.

If you engage in foot-genital contact, you ought to ensure that the feet in question are clean to avoid any irritation or infections and to be mindful of nails to avoid cuts and abrasions. And if you engage in any sort of play like trampling or foot beating, make sure to maintain a good line of communication, and a safe word, so that you can draw a solid line before anything starts to become uncomfortable or dangerous. But beyond those basic kink play safety practices, the only thing to remember during foot play is to have footsie fun!

A Non-Comprehensive List of Resources, Sites, and Platforms For Exploring Feet:

Oh Those Toes podcast
FootNight International (Foot Parties)
Foot Fetish Talks (Reddit)
Foot Fetish (Category on Clips4Sale)
Zipper’s Guide to Foot Fetishes (Zipper)
14 Ways to Explore Your Foot Fetish (Zipper)

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Zipper’s Guide to Bimbofication Kink

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Zipper’s Guide to Bimbofication

By Mark Hay

In 2020, influencers on platforms like TikTok started extolling the virtues of bimbofication, the act of embracing and adopting the classical characteristics of a bimbo. Ever since, “BimboTok” and other communities built around the cultivation and celebration of hyper-femme aesthetics, intentional empty-headedness, and sexual boldness have grown rapidly in size and visibility.

Dissecting Bimbo Archetypes

Think pieces galore have attempted to puzzle out where this broad interest in identifying with a traditionally derogatory term, lowbrow look, and supposedly regressive vibe came from—and what it means for society. Cultural critics have linked it to the ascent of celebrities like the Kardashians, who have helped to normalize the sorts of heavy makeup regimes and hyperreal body modifications that dovetail into bimbo archetypes. They’ve situated it within wider social reevaluations of pop depictions of bimbos—discourse that’s playing out at both the abstract academic level and in pop sensations like the Barbie movie—and the notions baked into them that femininity is frivolous, intellect ought to manifest in so-called respectable and marketable forms, and female sexuality ought to be shackled. They’ve suggested that the movement to mainstream bimbofication is part of a wider Gen Z clap-back at stolid social conventions—that for all its outward vapidness, bimbofication is a savvy radical political statement, tinged with overtones of queerness and overt anti-capitalism.

But almost none of the bimbofication advocates in the spotlight now, or the reporters covering their garish gospel, have acknowledged that communities built around the enthusiastic pursuit of bimbofication long predate the emergence of this mainstream movement: fetish communities.

This oversight is somewhat understandable. Bimbofication-as-a-fetish is “pretty niche,” as Ruby Roberts, an adult content creator who’s chronicling her own kinky bimbofication journey online, puts it. “It’s not a massive community.” In fact, the world of bimbofication kinks is so small, and until recently so fragmented, that many folks involved in the wider fetish-sphere don’t know much about it. But it’s still an oversight worth correcting, especially for those seeking a fuller picture of the precedent for and context of bimbofication-writ-large’s current cultural moment. So Zipper reached out to a handful of bimbofication fetishists, including content creators who’ve observed or participated in this world for decades, to put together a guide to the basics.

Becoming a Bimbo

In many respects, kinky bimbofication looks a lot like mainstream bimbofication. It’s a process of changing aspects of your appearance and person in order to embody “bimbo” ideals. These may be temporary tweaks, only adopted during play, or permanent alterations. They may involve “changes in clothes, makeup, speech patterns, behavior, and body modifications such as cosmetic surgery” to hyper-accentuate every traditional feminine trait of one’s body, explains Roberts. As with mainstream modern bimbos, there’s a great deal of variation in how far bimbofication fetishists pursue these alterations. At the far end, they may engage in practices like daily mental training and exercises to fully empty one’s mind, and surgeries like rib removals to starkly narrow one’s waist and highlight key curves.

The big difference between mainstream bimbofication and bimbofication-as-a-fetish is simply that most folks on the fetish side of the fence get something sensual out of the process.

We know that the concept of a bimbo, which stems from the Italian word for baby, bambino, first emerged in the 1920s, but only became a consistent and widely recognizable archetype in the 1980s. Even at that time, the image of the bimbo was already highly sexually charged, and that’d likely long fueled people’s pursuit of or interest in the aesthetic—but there wasn’t yet a clear fetish community built around the process of bimbofication.

Bimbofication’s Appeal

The bimbofication fetishists Zipper spoke to for this story mostly suspected that the seeds of bimbofication-the-kink gradually developed within the wider transformation fetish ecosystem. That’s where Mr. Phoenyxx, an adult comic artist who specializes in bimbofication content, stumbled upon the fetish nearly three decades ago. While exploring breast expansion content on the early internet, he encountered and got into art and stories depicting wider transformations that all converged towards the bimbo vibe. By the 2010s, bimbofication was an established tag within transformation fetish art communities.

Part of the potential appeal of bimbofication certainly overlaps with the appeal of transformation art and play writ large: Mr. Phoenyxx notes that he and many others are drawn to both bimbofication and other types of transformation because they love the idea of seeing what they already consider sexy traits amplified past the point of reality. Sortimid, another longtime bimbofication artist and enthusiast, explains that bimbofication is one of many types of transformation content they used to explore elements of their sexuality that they’d repressed in response to their upbringing. Roberts adds that as a trans woman, the idea of transformation kinks are appealing as a manifestation of bodily autonomy—of the reality that “we don’t have to accept nature and can change things to how we want them to be.” She and Sortimid both pointed out that a significant portion of the bimbofication fetish world seems to be trans.

“Bimbofication proudly embraces femininity, which is so often looked down upon, and seen as lesser than masculinity,” adds Roberts. “Ideas of femininity and autonomy are all tied up together because often women aren’t afforded the same level of bodily autonomy that men are. Bimbofication takes the power out of the negative framing of women’s sexual autonomy”

Giving Up Control

Like other forms of transformation, while bimbofication can be a self-propelled journey, it can also involve giving up control of some or all of the process to a trainer, or a community, often as part of a wider D/s power dynamic. Imposed or guided transformation play can involve aspects of sadomasochism and humiliation, Sortimid points out—in the case of bimbofication, playing with the stigmas around the image of the bimbo. Or it may involve hypnosis, Roberts adds, to draw a person deeper into their transformation. (Bimbofication transformation hypnosis drew critical press coverage earlier this year, when several women accused a trainer of using the practice on people who weren’t familiar with erotic hypnosis safety practices in order to manipulate them. This has led to a degree of backlash against all bimbofication kinks.)

Bimbos are not all submissives, though. Some use their hyper-feminine appeal to dominate the (typically) men who’re obsessed with them, in the process subverting the idea that bimbo aesthetics exist solely to serve the male gaze. A few use the concept of this power to create dynamics in which they financially dominate or humiliate their male partners as well.

But bimbofication also taps into desires that other forms of transformation fetishes don’t. Pink, a prominent bimbo trainer, points out that for some fetishists the transformation process itself isn’t appealing—it’s embodying, or seeing someone else embody, the unique character of a bimbo. Roberts says she’s always liked the gestalt “fake” look of bimbos in and of itself, so achieving that borderline unreal overarching aesthetic is a big part of the appeal for her.

There’s a unique “appeal to the ‘dumbing down’ aspect of bimbofication” too, Roberts adds. “I’ve recently started studying for a PhD about bimbofication, so I’m not stupid” in everyday life, she explains. “But often, being perceived as intelligent can put a lot of pressure on me, which can leave me feeling anxious or overwhelmed. To be treated as if I’m not intelligent, even for a little bit, can be nice.”

As awareness of and interest in bimbofication expanded within both transformation porn circles and the wider world, communities dedicated solely to bimbofication art, or to chronicling real-life people’s bimbofication journeys, started to pop up around 2013. By 2016, Pink developed “a much-needed framework for the whole process of bimbofication and the idea of what a bimbo is,” which he published via his Pink Bimbo Academy training platform, in an effort to centralize the increasingly visible and vibrant dedicated bimbofication fetish space. (That same year, the kink and fetish platform—and Zipper‘s publisher—Clips4Sale created a bimbofication content category.) And in 2017, adult bimbofication content creators broke through into wider cultural awareness—albeit via confused tabloid tales of aspiring bimbos and Twitter drama about whether or not bimbofication art is misogynistic. Pearl-clutching about the social implications of bimbofication fetish content at the time perfectly predicted the hand-wringing about the purported prospect setting feminism back decades by (supposedly) endorsing female objectification that swirls around mainstream bimbofication social movement today.

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Bimbos, Himbos, Stepford Wives, and Dolls

Despite centralizing efforts like Pink’s, the nascent bimbofication fetish space has always been fairly fragmented—to the point that many people used radically different terms for it, Sortimid recalls, like bimboization, bimbotization, and bimboification, before selling on bimbofication. (“Finding content was harder” before that terminological convergence, they recall.) So it should come as no surprise that “bimbofication means different things to different people, like most fetishes,” as Mr. Phoenyxx puts it. Or that “there are certainly all kinds of bimbos now.”

Most subdivisions in the bimbofication kink space align with varied ideas about the specific characteristics that define a bimbo.

Pink argues that many facets of the bimbo, like the focus on makeup as a tool for the hyperreal accentuation of key physical traits, are ancient and near-universal. But he and most others also acknowledge that “the bimbo as we knew it today was mostly formed by Western beauty standards,” as he puts it, especially those rooted in mid-to-late-20th century American feminine ideals: Hourglass silhouettes. Bleach blonde hair. Pink apparel. Although this archetype has spread across the world, and spawned regional offshoots, arguably including Japan’s Gyaru subculture, it originated in, and was always most accessible, to white, cis women with conventionally attractive body types—especially straight women with disposable income. This is still the image of bimbo-hood that most people involved in bimbofication pursue. And it’s probably no coincidence that, as Pink notes, the bimbofication fetish world is overwhelmingly white.

But many people are drawn to what they see as the essence of the concept of the bimbo—the general accentuation of feminine traits, pursuit of empty-headedness, and sexual straight-forwardness. These folks have formed sub-kinks around distinct visions of how to manifest those values, according to their own cultural norms and beauty standards. So even within the tiny world of bimbo kink, it’s possible to find communities celebrating efforts to become fit, goth, or princess bimbos—and more. While some communities believe only women can become bimbos, others embrace the idea of men or non-binary folk becoming himbos, nimbos, or thembos. (Unsurprisingly, women can also be bimbo trainers.) Mr. Phoenyxx adds that there’s also variation in what sort of behaviors people focus on, and how they do so. Some bimbofication fetishists zero in on the quest to become ditzy above all else, for example, while others see bimbofication as a purely visual transformation, not a mental shift. Some only embody bimbo-ness during play, or for short periods, while others engage in transformation work and live as bimbos full-time. “If you asked 100 people how a bimbo acts,” Mr. Phoenyxx stresses, “you’d probably get a hundred answers.”

There are also subcultures built around the blending of already hyper-niche bimbofication with other hyper-niche fetishes. Notably:

Bimbofication can merge into dollification, or “doll fetish,” a kink all about the quest to become a human doll—whether a lifeless one, or one shaped, animated, and manipulated by a doll maker. Doll fetish may involve role-play as a tin soldier, a robot, or a rag doll, but when mixed with bimbofication it often involves transformation towards the specific unreal beauty standards manifested in toys like a Barbie, or in outright sex dolls.

Bimbofication can intersect with fetishes around mid-20th century domestic dynamics in the form of Stepfordization—transformation into an uncanny, subservient Stepford Wife.

Bimbofication that intersects with gender play can take the form of men, to take one example, transforming willingly, or at a dominant partner’s behest, into a female bimbo.

The list goes on and on.

Battling Mainstream ‘Bimboism’

It’s hard to say if or how the vibrant world of bimbofication fetishes influenced the recent rise of mainstream, PG bimbofication trend—in part because folks in space like BimboTok don’t seem all that eager to discuss the fetish side of things. Zipper reached out to a dozen mainstream bimbofication influencers for this story. Only one replied, and only to pointedly state that her bimbofication content is not fetish-related, and that Zipper should never contact her again.

Some of the earliest modern cultural conversations about bimbofication were sparked by fetish content on social media, albeit this discourse was limited. And a few fetish figures, like the bimbofication content creator Alicia Amira, have clawed their way into conversations about the general mainstreaming of bimbo vibes and values. So it’s possible that bimbofication-the-fetish influenced bimbofication-the-mainstream-social-trend. But Sortimid points out that, in practice, BimboTok and similar mainstream communities “feel like their own separate thing.”

The rapid rise of the parallel world mainstream bimbofication irks fetishists like Pink. He goes so far as to label mainstream bimbofication advocates cultural appropriators, who’ve “invaded, twisted, and redefined” something from fetish world to their own ends without acknowledgment or input. “This is one of the reasons that I see it as my duty to gatekeep bimbofication,” he says.

Others like Roberts simply worry about the risk of confused mainstreamers stumbling into fetish spaces unawares. (One of Roberts’ friends thinks mainstream bimbofication should be called bimboism, to better differentiate these worlds.) About how the narrowness of the mainstream vision of what it means to be a bimbo denies some fetishists their hard-won bimbo-hood. (“I know bimbos who have right-wing views,” she says. “While I don’t agree with them, I wouldn’t say they’re not bimbos because of it,” despite mainstream bimbofication’s explicitly progressive political positioning.) And about the risk of popularization leading, in the inevitable capitalist progress, to a commodification of bimbo-dom that flattens out the idea—and its appeal.

“Obviously, this isn’t to say we should gatekeep,” she says. “I’m in favor of bimbofication being open to all those who are genuinely interested in it, whether that be for the kink aspects or not. But the best way to keep the community alive is probably to keep it just weird enough.”

But no matter their trepidations about or consternation with mainstream bimbofication, everyone Zipper spoke to within the fetish world suspects that a growing awareness of bimbofication writ large will draw ever more people towards the fetish. And that it’ll make it easier for people to explore longstanding interests in becoming bimbos, with less fear of social backlash for adopting what is an increasingly acceptable look and persona. “It can only be a good thing when we bring any fetish into the mainstream,” Mr. Phoenyxx argues. “It benefits us when these sorts of things are out in the open, and we can talk about them… That only helps us accept each other.”

Mark Hay is a Brooklyn-based freelance writer who covers sex and sexuality, among other beats. You can also find his work in The Daily Beast, Mel Magazine, VICE, and many, many other outlets.

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Beyond Pegging: Prostate Massage, Orgasm & Technique

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Beyond Pegging: Prostate Massage, Orgasm & Technique

By Luna Matatas

You may have heard the prostate referred to as the p-spot or the “male G-spot”; or maybe you’ve heard of “prostate milking” — kind of like a massage for the prostate. If you have a penis, you have multiple pleasure spots beyond the penis and the prostate might be one of them. People get curious about prostate pleasure for all kinds of reasons. If you’re into pegging strap-on sex, which indirectly stimulates the prostate — you may enjoy exploring more direct prostate orgasm techniques too.

Finding the right prostate pleasure technique takes a bit of trial and error but keep reading for key prostate pleasure anatomy, tips for beginners, and p-spot techniques.

What is a prostate?

The prostate is a gland that’s located between the base of the penis and the bladder. Its main function is to produce prostatic fluid, an important part of the seminal fluid that carries sperm out of the body during ejaculation. Prostatic fluid helps sperm survive longer and be more mobile.

Technically all human bodies have prostates. The Skene’s glands are sometimes referred to as “the female prostate” in people with vulvas. These paraurethral glands produce fluid during arousal that contains some of the same proteins as seminal fluid. Both are located in about the same place and develop from the same cells.

Why is the prostate considered such an orgasmic powerhouse? Because it’s packed with feel-good nerve endings. You can access it through the rectum by inserting a finger or sex toy approximately 2-3 inches into the anus.

Compared to the softer rectal tissue that surrounds it, the prostate can feel a little bit like a marble or a walnut. It’s also easier to find when the receptive partner is relaxed and aroused.

What is prostate milking?

Prostate massage is sometimes referred to as prostate milking. It involves stimulating the gland until prostatic fluid is released. This often produces a greater volume than is typical from penis orgasms. Some people experience full-body convulsions too. However, not everyone enjoys prostate milking or can achieve it — so keep tabs on what’s pleasurable for you.

Prostate milking is what we see a lot of in mainstream prostate porn, but it isn’t the only goal. Prostate massage can be a lot of fun even without ejaculating or orgasming from it. Milking the prostate is a time and sensation-intense activity, so it may not happen on your first try.

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What is a prostate orgasm?

Some people describe prostate orgasms as distinctly different from other types of orgasms, but physiologically, they’re much the same: stimulation causes muscle contractions that send waves of pleasure through the body. They might feel full-bodied and more intense, plus can happen with or without ejaculation. For some, prostate orgasms allow for multiple orgasms during sex. Others enjoy the feeling of fullness in their anus while they stimulate their penis, nipples, or other pleasure areas.

New sensations can feel weird at first, so don’t be surprised if you don’t have a prostate orgasm during your first session.

What preparation do you need for prostate play?

Prostate play prep is about readying your space and your body. Preparing for things like mess, anal warm-up, and fuller body arousal can lead to a more relaxed experience that invites pleasure.

Six things you can do to prepare for prostate play:

Prep your surface. Ensure you have undisturbed, private time. Consider putting down a towel or sex blanket to soak up lube or body fluids.
Prep your butt. With any kind of anal play, encountering poop is a possibility. Eating a high-fiber diet and being well-hydrated can help.

Some butt prep options:

Some choose to use an anal syringe/enema bulb with warm water to flush out any particles of poop left from their last bowel movement.
Shower and wash the external parts of the anus after your last bowel movement.
Have mess prep ready: Towels can protect your bed. Barriers like condoms and disposable gloves make messes easier to manage.

Gather your prostate tools.

Good quality lube: A lot of it makes going into the butt easier and increases sensation. Silicone or thick water-based lubes are best.
Small prostate massagers: Vibrating or non-vibrating. I like Aneros prostate massagers because they’re small but very targeted for prostate pleasure. Instead of thrusting, you rock it in your body using squeezing and relaxing movements.
Erotic stimulation: Porn, erotica, dirty talk, a partner. Get your brain engaged.
Condoms for toys or penises, and latex or nitrile disposable gloves for fingers. Cut or file fingernails or cover them with gloves to avoid injury to the rectal tissue.

Get VERY aroused. Turn yourself on in ways that are already familiar, like penis stimulation. Once you feel relaxed, start exploring the butthole externally with fingers or sex toys. Without proper warm-up, the delicate tissue of the anus is prone to injury.
Train Your Ass for Prostate Pleasure. If you’re new to anal sex, you will likely need to train your anus. At first, anal penetration might feel like you’re going to have a bowel movement, but it shouldn’t feel painful.

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Three prostate stimulation techniques to try

Prostates respond to medium-firm, continuous stimulation. Fingers get tired, so consider bringing in prostate sex toys. Keep at one technique for a little while before switching to something else. Consider starting with these:

Massaging: Use one or two fingers and use a come hither motion inside the rectum. No thrusting — try rocking fingers. Keep the fingers inside and use strokes that put pressure toward the front of the body (visualize behind the penis base). Experiment with speed and pressure.
Swiping: Move one or two fingers from side to side across the prostate in a windshield-wiper motion. Go slowly; sometimes the side-to-side motion increases the sensation of fullness.
External prostate stimulation: Use the perineum and the space behind the testicles to apply pressure (with fingers or a strong vibrator) in and up towards the front of the body. The perineum is a nerve-rich area between the penis and the anus.

Notice and communicate what feels good and what doesn’t. It can take a bit of exploring to figure out where the P-spot is located on your body.

What if I don’t have an erection during prostate massage?

Lots of people worry about not being hard during prostate massage. Stress and preoccupation during sex don’t facilitate orgasm. If you’re having a great time without an erection during p-spot play — AWESOME! It might just be what your arousal looks like. People don’t have erections during prostate play for many reasons, like:

Butt stuff might feel good in a different way than penis pleasure does.
Feeling nervous or worried about mess or pain or erections can distract from pleasure.
Erections might be accustomed to penis stimulation, so they switch off during anal stimulation

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Pleasure comes in many different forms. If you’re playing with a partner, let them know what your pleasure looks like.

Now that you’ve got tips, techniques, and toys for p-spot play, you are ready to begin or advance your prostate adventure. Be gentle with your butt and honor the readiness of the butts you’re lucky enough to be inside of. Prostate pleasure is about play, not performance.

Want more prostate tips? My Prostate Play Skills on-demand webinar has a ton of info and a body demo so you can see techniques in action. My Prostate Pleasure Digital Guide comes with the webinar or can be instantly downloaded separately — it’s 19 pages of p-spot pleasure tips!

Prostate pleasure is about play, not performance.

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Electro-Sex 101: Neon Wand Play

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Electro-Sex 101: Neon Wand Play

By Sunny Megatron

“You wanna shock me WHERE!?! And with WHAT!?”

Many hesitate at the thought of trying electro-sex. And I get it – we’ve been conditioned to associate electric stimulation with pain and danger. From the little zaps we get when we scoot our socks across the carpet, to accidentally getting a little jolt from an outlet, we’ve learned that electricity is something unpleasant and to be feared. So it’s no wonder that the thought of intentionally using it for pleasure seems counterintuitive and downright terrifying. But the truth is, with the right tools and some basic knowledge, electric play can be a highly pleasurable and exciting addition to your kink repertoire.

There are two main types of electro-sex toys used in kink, TENS units and wands. Both harness electricity in different ways, they feel different, and can be used for either pain or sensual pleasure. That’s right, electric play isn’t just for hardcore sadomasochists! Knowing what your equipment is capable of and how to adjust it is the key to unlocking the full spectrum of sensation from sensual to hardcore.

Electrosex wands are wonderful for estim novices and sensation play enthusiasts alike. My recommendation for both is the KinkLab Neon Wand. It’s a more cost-effective, easier-to-use spin-off of the violet wand. If you’re in the market for one, be sure to go for an authentic Kinklab brand Neon Wand. The low prices on sites like Amazon are tempting but those knock-offs aren’t made for kink. Many are intended for estheticians and just repackaged for BDSM; the output isn’t adjusted for our needs. The cheap imitations have a reputation for not lasting very long either. I’ve heard many horror stories about cheap neon wands malfunctioning during use!

I typically advise that electro-play enthusiasts add a Power Tripper body contact attachment to their e-stim kit too. These two items together offer a full spectrum of sensations from gentle to “RED!”

What is a Neon Wand & what part of the body is it for?

Electric wands aren’t meant for insertion. They’re sensation play toys. You glide them over a partner’s body much like you would a fuzzy mitten or an ice cube. For this reason, Neon Wands are ideal for fostering intimacy and connection during partnered play. I often recommend them to vanilla couples too.

The largest part of a Neon Wand is the corded hand-held base that plugs into a wall outlet. Attachments slide into the base – the most common being glass electrodes that light up like a neon sign. An arc of electricity jumps out of the glass when you hover it about ¼ inch above someone’s skin. If you’ve ever seen a lightning-filled plasma ball on display at Spencer’s, it’s very similar.

What does a Neon Wand feel like?

The sensation from the glass electrodes is localized to the area the electric arc touches. It can feel like a tickle or gentle tingle which many find pleasant. Wands feel different from person to person depending on a number of factors like how dry the skin is or muscle density. So it will take a little experimentation to figure out what settings are right for you. On max power, many say the sensation feels sharp, biting, like an intense static shock, or similar to a tattoo gun.

What is a Power Tripper?

Some heavy pain players say the Neon Wand isn’t powerful enough for their taste. Enter the Power Tripper attachment. This must-have body contact is both a sadomasochist and pervertible enthusiast’s dream! It increases the versatility of the Neon Wand in a few ways. One is by giving you the ability to turn nearly any item made from conductive metal (silver, copper, gold, aluminum, etc) or your own body into an electric play toy. For those who crave intensity, it boosts the power capacity too.

One end of the Power Tripper plugs into the base and the other end can either be held or tucked into clothing. As long as it remains flat against the body, it turns the wearer into a human electrode! This means when one partner hovers their fingers a few millimeters over their partner’s skin, they both feel the spark that passes between them. This works with any body part too like tongues, feet, or bits.

The same happens when you touch your partner with a conductive metal object too – a ball of tinfoil, silverware, a metal dildo, Wartenberg pinwheel, etc. But the neat part is, each object conducts differently, creating a unique feel. This combined with the ability to turn the power up or down means you have an infinite number of sensations to play with that you can customize to feel delightfully pleasurable or devilishly wicked.

**But is Neon Wand electro-sex safe?**

There are a few key health and safety considerations to be aware of before trying electro-sex. Neon Wands are considered relatively safe. They use very low levels of electricity plus when using only glass electrodes the electricity stays localized, penetrating the skin just a few millimeters deep where the arc touches the body. Those who have electronic medical implants like a pacemaker or insulin pump, people who have heart abnormalities, or are pregnant should NOT electro-sex devices. Additionally, never insert a glass electrode into any orifice or use it near the eyes.

Should I remove my body jewelry before using a Neon Wand?

You can wear body jewelry when using a neon wand, it won’t shock you. Pins or screws from surgery aren’t generally a concern either (however, you should always check with your doctor about your personal medical situation before trying electric play). Why? Because that metal is grounded by its constant contact with your flesh.

There is one exception to this rule that’s most likely to occur when you’re using the Power Tripper. Dangling jewelry can give you an unexpected zap. This is why – let’s say you’re wearing long earrings and your body is electrified with the Power Tripper. If the end of your earring comes too close to your collarbone as you move your head, you might feel it. While this is harmless, many opt to remove any metal object that may unexpectedly break away from the body like necklaces or clothing with metal snaps or zippers.

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How can I use a Neon Wand with my partner?

A Neon Wand is an excellent way to infuse novelty, creativity, and playfulness into your sex life or BDSM play. Because it involves areas of the body and sensations that aren’t typically center stage during intimacy, an electrosex wand can help you rekindle forgotten joys with your partner or to explore with someone new.

Wands are perfect for classic sensation play. Tingles on the back of the knees, insides of the arms, nipples, or exterior genitals can feel incredibly erotic. Power Tripper-assisted oral sex is also a favorite among electroplay enthusiasts. And, of course, the BDSM and D/s scene possibilities are infinite. Perhaps a mad scientist role play, sadistic esthetician, or supervillain who harnessed the power of lightning for evil can be your inspiration.

Many say that electro-sex wasn’t as intimidating as it seemed after they learned a little bit more about it. In fact, a Neon Wand is just as likely to induce uncontrollable giggling than erotic fear. With a little courage and creativity, Neon Wand electro-sex may be just the thing to put the spark back into your play.

P.s. Lucky you! We teamed up with The Stockroom to give away a Kinklab Neon Wand® Electrosex Kit and Power Tripper Attachment. This prize package includes everything you need to make your Valentine’s Day sizzle. You can enter the giveaway here, good luck!

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Sunny Megatron is an award-winning BDSM & Certified Sexuality Educator, Certified Relationship Coach, and media personality. She’s the host and executive producer of the Showtime original television series, SEX with Sunny Megatron, plus co-hosts AASECT Award winning American Sex Podcast and Open Deeply Podcast. Sunny was also named XBIZ Sexpert of the Year 2021 and is Editor-in-Chief of Zipper Magazine.

Known for her one-of-a-kind build-your-own-adventure approach to sex, kink & relationships, Sunny coined the BDSM community catch-phrase, Kink is Customizable. In her sell-out workshops, her unique brand of “edutainment” seamlessly combines her humorous lecturing style, interactive exercises, and the latest sexuality research. Sunny’s passion is helping others overcome shame and find power through play and pleasure. Currently, she’s working on her first book, “Customizable Kink: A Strategic Guide to Adult Play.”

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20 Christmas Kink Scene & Role Play Ideas

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20 Christmas Kink Scene & Role Play Ideas

Featuring Sunny Megatron

Looking for some creative ways to kink up the holiday season? Christmas themes can infuse a little playfulness and novelty into your BDSM. This can even be a fun and familiar way to explore kinky play for the first time. If you dig beyond the standard Santa Claus Dom/naughty elf sub scenario and let your imagination run wild, you’ll realize there’s a lot more material to draw from than you might think.

BDSM Educator & Zipper Magazine’s Editor-in-Chief, Sunny Megatron, put together 20 outside-the-giftbox BDSM scene starters and “Kinkmas” roleplay ideas that incorporate popular kinkslike bondage, dollification, temperature play, playful humiliation, pet roleplay, and more. We’d love to hear what creative kinky play ideas her video inspired!

Video transcript below.

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Who is Sunny Megatron?

Sunny Megatron is a multi-award-winning BDSM & Certified Sexuality Educator, Relationship Coach, and media personality. She’s the host and executive producer of Showtime’s original series, Sex with Sunny Megatron, plus co-hosts American Sex Podcast & Open Deeply. XBIZ’s Sexpert of the Year 2021, Sunny is currently Editor-in-Chief of Zipper Magazine. You can find her on TikTok, Twitter, Instagram, Facebook & Patreon.

20 Christmas Kink Scene & Roleplay Ideas Video Transcript

Hey, kinky friends! It’s time to get into the holiday spirit with Christmas-themed role plays and kink scene ideas. If you’re thinking, “well, no-brainer! Santa role play – naughty and nice, that’s easy!” No, no, no. These are more outside-the-box and there is something for everyone.

Now, remember my catchphrase? “Kink is customizable.” So that means you can take some of these ideas and use them just the way they are or as inspiration to think up your own. You make the rules! But as always, make sure you prioritize consent and safety before diving into any kink or roleplay scene.

Now wait, before we get into it, if you’re like, “Santa fetish?!” and you’re still stuck on that – yes, that is a thing! When it comes to Santa fetish, and who and why and what, it goes deep down the chimney y’all. We just published an article on Zipper Magazine all about Santa fetish. We talked to people who were into it, experts, and even Santa historians. But right now we’re going to talk Kinkmas — 20 scene ideas for your holiday-themed roleplay.

Sensory deprivation and audio bondage . . . Mariah Carey style. Picture this, you’re handcuffed and you have headphones on blasting Mariah Carey’s “All I Want For Christmas” on repeat over and over and over and over again. You want nothing more than to take off those headphones. But guess what? Your hands are bound. Talk about a mindfuck!

This is a great way to keep your partner consensually disoriented and on edge. Plus, every time you hear that song from now until eternity, which is gonna be lots because it’s everywhere, you can’t escape it. You get to think of that hot scene that you did.

Santa-themed roleplay but not in the way that you think. I mean, who says Santa has to be dominant? Yeah, he’s Father Christmas, but does he have to be Daddy Christmas? How about a Mrs. Claus-themed femdom-esque roleplay? Santa is gonna have some really rosy cheeks after that. And I don’t mean . . . And when all is said and done, he won’t be coming down the chimney, he’ll be left with a full sack . . . of presents.

Or how about a scene where Santa is at the mercy of his demanding elves? You know, bratty submissives or dominant littles (and they are a thing by the way), they don’t care if they’ve been naughty if they’ve been nice. They are going to make Santa give them whatever the heck they want.

“I Saw Mommy Kissing Santa Claus.” But in this roleplay, Santa isn’t the submissive one. He is just a prop for a strong, independent woman with a voracious appetite for . . . chestnuts. You are the one who catches your hot wife (hotwife, get it?) doing more than just kissing Santa Claus.

If you’re into roleplay – Need I say more? Or you could morph that into a scary Santa scenario for those people who want to explore their . . . CLAUStriphobia, get it?

If you live in a snowy area and you have a private backyard, use that snow as a punishment or FUNishment. Let’s say your Dom tells you you have 15 seconds to go out that door au-natural and make a snow angel. “And I’m timing you!”

Or if being outside isn’t your thing, bring outside to you. Temperature play with a snowball. Or imagine the firm point of an icicle gliding over your skin. It is a unique twist on sensation play but — DO NOT put the icicle THERE! It is dirty and from the roof, yuck. Just for sensation, that’s it.

You’ve heard of human furniture, why not human Christmas tree? You can add garland for bondage or jingle bells. Make sure if you do use lights they’re LED because they don’t get hot like the old-fashioned ones. And there are so many options for hanging ornaments — depending on how intense your kinks are and your skill level, of course.

If you’re into playful humiliation, why don’t you have your sub sing an ode to themselves? “Oh Christmas tree, Oh Christmas tree, How lovely are my . . .” Then you can kick that up to predicament play if you want. Tell them they have to sing the song without laughing while you go hunting for the Christmas pickle!

“The 12 Days of Christmas” but with a kinky twist. Tell yourself they have to come up with new kink-related words on the fly. That’s a long song, and it repeats. So they have to remember like, “Oh god! Did I say five golden [cock] rings or five golden . . . rhymes with flowers [showers]?! I don’t remember!” Don’t forget to tell them “hey, if you mess up the lyrics, YULE be sorry!”

DIY kinky advent calendar. Every day, the sub opens — maybe it’s a task, a reward, or a challenge. You can even lead up to a big thing and end the month with a bang. So on the last day, they’re surprised with a big gift. Maybe it’s a new toy. Maybe it’s an experiential reward. And if your kink is psychological sadomasochism? They get coal in their stocking!

We’re going to keep with that coal in your stocking theme and we’re going to take it to the extreme. Have your sub reach into a stocking to find it’s filled with smashed Oreo cookies! That’s the “coal” because you probably shouldn’t use real coal; cookies are more fun. That will be the first ingredient to start off your humiliation-based wet and messy (WAM) aka sploshing scene.

Since cookies have already entered the chat, ookie gookie Santa’s cookies. If you know, you know. I can’t really say what [ookie gookie cookie] is on YouTube. Maybe I’ll say it somewhere else. Keep an ear out!

You know that song “We Wish You a Merry Christmas?” “Now bring us some figgy pudding . . .” Wait, is it figgie or figging pudding? Again, if you know, you know.

Shout out to the CBT enthusiasts, and I don’t mean cognitive behavioral therapy. You’ve got The Nutcracker, snowballs, and chestnuts roasting on an open fire. There is so much there. Roll with it.

Let’s say you have a praise kink, you’re into animal role-play, and playful humiliation. Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer! Get out your pony play gear. Get out that red clown nose — because I know you’re into some freaky stuff. Plan a scene that starts as humiliation but then ends with an unexpected twist.

Turns out Rudolph wasn’t all those horrible things that everybody said. He saved Christmas. And then after that, all the reindeers loved him, like every single one of them. A lot of reindeer.

Number 14 is for those curious about exploring feminization or even dollification. Angel topper roleplay. Imagine if your Dom dressed you up head to toe as a beautiful angel. But you don’t have to be a submissive to be on the receiving end of the angel treatment. Let’s say you request from your s-type to be made over as an act of service. I mean, you are the angel TOPper after all!

Also, we know where the tippy-top point of that Christmas tree is hiding, which is fine. Because you can be a dom and receive “Christmas tree branches” too. Bottom and top mean giver or receiver where dom and sub, that’s about the energy you’re giving and what kind of power or control you have in that negotiated scene. So yeah, if you want to be a dom, but also bottom you can do that because kink is customizable and you make the rules, angel!

Movies make excellent roleplay inspiration. So for sadists and character inspiration, how about the Grinch? Bad Santa? Scrooge?

Or the classic Christmas special we all know and love, “Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer.” You remember Hermie the Christmas elf? If you’ve got a praise kink, you’re kind of into monster roleplay, and definitely medical play — dental play scene with the Abominable Snowman.

Elf on the Shelf – there’s some archetype inspiration for you. I don’t know what it is. Weird? Mischievous? I don’t know if that elf is an s-type or a D-type. Kind of gives “hot, creepy sadist” to me, but again, it’s your scene you get to make the rules.

You know those ginormous candy canes? They make great pervertibles. A pervertible is a household or common object repurposed for kinky fun. And no, not there! They’re kind of thick and thuddy. Some smacks across the backside — they’re great. Make sure you leave them in the plastic so if one breaks you don’t have candy flying everywhere.

Missile toe or should I say . . . toes? That might be tickle play, bastinado, which is caning the soles of the feet. I don’t mean candy canes . . . but maybe candy canes. How about Jack Frost nipping at your toes?

You’re the gift! This is great for a group activity and those who consent to being “loaned out.” Your top plans everything and although the details are negotiated and consented to (you gotta get that part right), maybe you can make the timing a surprise so it still feels spontaneous.

Suddenly they wrap you up like a present. Maybe you’re mummified with colorful saran wrap – you know, wrapping paper. And don’t forget the bows and the ribbons. Or in one of those ginormous Christmas stoc kings. Whatever you’re wrapped in, you are the gift.

This one is also a group activity — holiday dinner. I could think of a number of different ways this could go. High protoco l dinner service. Or maybe someone’s a human serving plate with an array of holiday cookies all over. Maybe they are the cookie! Oh, or the turkey — they get stuffed and everyone fights over the wishbone. I don’t know (laughs)

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What’s the Difference Between a Tradwife & Domestic Service Submissive?

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What's the Difference Between a Tradwife & Domestic Service Submissive?

By Sunny Megatron

On the surface, tradwives and domestic subs appear similar. They both center around submission within a power-exchange dynamic. But look a little deeper and you’ll find some fundamental differences.

What’s a tradwife?

Short for “traditional wife,” a tradwife is a woman who adheres to ultra-traditional gender roles in monogamous marriage. This typically includes things like domestic tasks, prioritizing her husband’s career, and submitting to male leadership. Tradwives typically view their submissive role as a natural part of their gender and identity. Many take that further believing that submission should be a part of every ciswoman’s identity.

Beyond describing a lifestyle choice based on 1950s-era family values, the term tradwife has been embraced by a growing movement & subculture within far-right extremist communities.

What’s a domestic service submissive?

These are individuals who, regardless of gender or relationship style, enjoy submitting to their power-exchange partners in a domestic context. This flavor of service submissive may find fulfillment in household tasks like cooking and cleaning and derive pleasure from serving, pleasing, and supporting their dominant partner.

Domestic service submissives may also enjoy role-playing domestic scenes and adopting traditional domestic and gender roles. Some bring behaviors, social norms, and aesthetics of 1950s housewives into their BDSM dynamic and/or play too.

Not all domestic subs play by one universal rulebook. Their dynamics range from casual to serious, are consensually negotiated between partners, and are customized to serve everyone’s needs. Additionally, some may view their submissive role as more of a fetish or kink while others embrace it as a part of their core identity.

What’s the difference between a tradwife & 24/7 domestic service sub?

One of the biggest differences between Tradwifery and domestic-oriented D/s dynamics in kink is the level of consent involved and how it’s prioritized. Tradwives often enter into submissive relationships without fully understanding the power dynamics at play, and may not have the same level of agency as their kinky counterparts. Adherence to certain rules and expectations may also be required with no regard for their personal boundaries and needs.

In contrast, submissives in BDSM typically enter into their relationships with a clear understanding of the rules and boundaries. They have a greater say in how their relationship operates, can opt-out (partially or completely), and are free to renegotiate rules and prior agreements to better suit their desires.

In other words, in kink consent is not only prioritized, it’s a fundamental part of the culture and framework of BDSM. Consent tools like safewords, check-ins, and scheduled renegotiation are expected to be used in dynamics and scenes too.

As a BDSM educator and kinkster, I have a hunch that some women are drawn to the tradwife lifestyle because it satisfies a kink that they don’t even know they have. How can you tell if you’re curious about tradwifery due to its resemblance to consensual BDSM or not? This may help you out:

Note: This chart generalizes common beliefs & trends to provide a broad overview. It doesn’t reflect the individual experiences or nuanced views of those who identify as BDSM submissives or tradwives.

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Sunny Megatron is an award-winning BDSM & Certified Sexuality Educator, Certified Relationship Coach, and media personality. She’s the host and executive producer of the Showtime original television series, SEX with Sunny Megatron, plus co-hosts AASECT Award-winning American Sex Podcast and Open Deeply Podcast. Sunny was also named XBIZ Sexpert of the Year 2021 and is Editor-in-Chief of Zipper Magazine.

You can find Sunny Megatron on TikTok, Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, and Patreon.

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Giantess Fetish with Giantess Katelyn Brooks

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Giantess Fetish with Giantess Katelyn Brooks

By Zipper Magazine Staff

Giant women have left their oversized footsteps in human culture ever since we started making up stories around the fire. Whether the ferocity of Grendel’s mother in Beowulf, the courage of the Amazons in Greek mythology, the trash classic Attack of the 50-Foot Woman, or the four-color adventures of She-Hulk, Giganta, or Titania in superhero comics, there’s something irresistible about large, powerful women. And of course, they’re just as irresistible as subjects for fetish porn.

More discreetly called “macrophilia,” giantess fetish is a fascination with or sexual attraction to giants. In popular culture, this kink is most often played out as a predator/prey D/s scenario involving a helpless, micro-sized man at the whim of a larger-than-life giantess. Fantasies typically revolve around being controlled, captured, crushed, or exploring the giant’s body. Giantess fetish also goes hand-in-hand with vore as many bite-sized macrophiles also eroticize being eaten. In fact, it evolved into its own content genre – “giantess vore.”

This is a more common fetish than one may think thanks largely to the internet. Giantess fetish videos, forums, and erotica have flourished online — and there’s still more yet to be unveiled. We sat down to talk with Katelyn Brooks, a noted giantess, vore fetish enthusiast, and content creator, about the many delights of big women with tiny men — and the virtues of eating him, crushing him, or simply demanding worship.

Zipper Magazine: What is giantess fetish and how did you get into it?

Katelyn Brooks: It’s a sexual attraction to a woman who has supreme power and control via a larger-than-life size difference compared to her subject(s). She could tower over the Amazonians from Greek legend, a city, a state, the planet. Her size is purely fantasy.

The most popular size difference in the community is where her subjects are about ½” to 3” in comparison. Fetishists commonly fantasize about ultimately being sacrificed for her enjoyment, often by getting swallowed (Vore) or squashed beneath her bare soles (Crush).

There are many more desires within the community, including those who like gentle Giantesses, and there are many other fetish content types aside from videos, including collages, drawings, comics, CGI, photos, written stories, audio, RP, etc.

ZM: What’s your favorite thing about this kink?

KB: I love the supreme power the Giantess has; it’s incredibly empowering. While I’m attracted to countless scenarios within the scope of the Giantess fetish as a whole, the one that gets me the hottest is Vore. There are many ways it could play out — but regardless, to swallow shrunken people for my own pleasure makes my panties wet just thinking about it.

ZM: Why do you think people enjoy fantasizing about being a tiny person and why do you think giantess kink has become so popular?

KB: For those who have a Giantess fetish as part of their core sexuality, “nurture” may play the biggest role. That is, it’s a result of the parenting style experienced while sexuality was developing as well as later life experiences. Genetics could also have a role.

Also the sheer amount of fetish content nowadays — everything from production to consumption has played a big part in the exposure and growth of the Giantess Fetish as well.

For example, it’s easy for someone with a more common interest — mouths, feet, burping, femdom, etc. — to come across a Giantess fetish video because a scenario can include any one of those. Also since so many models and studios do customs, it really gets around that way too, I imagine just like many other fetishes have as well.

ZM: If you could choose between growing into a giantess or shrinking people down, which would it be?

KB: I’d choose to shrink fans so we could live out our fantasies together. I reserve true Giantess for pure fantasy. I wouldn’t have the heart to destroy civilization in a horny villainous rampage like in some of my fantasies! However, I wouldn’t be able to pass up a harmless holodeck program where I could live them out. In a private suite of course!

As for shrinking fans, I find myself longing to do so on a constant everyday basis. According to one of my tweets, there are over 500 that want me to shrink them down for real, and I believe that a lot of them would do it. It is empowering to know there are real men out there who want to shrink down and sacrifice it all to actualize our deepest desires.

ZM: What other kinks do you like to weave into your giantess scenes?

KB: So many! Humiliation, bondage, female supremacy, burping, mouth fetish, bare feet, growth, shrinking the viewer in stages, cuckolding, chastity, and facesitting to name just a few.

I even filmed throughout a full-term pregnancy up to the day I went into labor; I loved how Vore fetishists loved seeing my big preggy belly imagining it was them or someone else inside. It worked out perfectly and I look forward to doing that again someday.

I also like to play different characters like schoolgirl, goddess, boss, witch, girlfriend, step-sister, you name it. The variety of interests I’ve worked with has brought me through a wonderful exploration of my own sexuality as well. I really enjoy it!

"I love the supreme power the Giantess has; it’s incredibly empowering."

ZM: Other than creative camera angles, do you use other props or tricks to make viewers feel small? How much of this fantasy is mental & relies on the imagination?

KB: Tiny figures are commonly used to portray whoever or whatever is at the Giantess’ mercy in the scenario. I find it fun and hot to roleplay with them and the viewer imagines that whatever’s going on is actually happening, even though it’s a prop.

Once in a while, I’ll stand on a hidden stool that’s out of the frame to make the viewer feel small on the floor looking up at me out of the camera’s pov. I’m also selective with which camera and lens I use, as well as surrounding objects and how I pose my body to the camera.

ZM: Of all the giantess clip requests you’ve had, what was the most memorable?

KB: It’s too hard to choose just one — there are dozens! Everything from when I was pregnant for sure, such a special time. I also especially loved adding my creativity to several customs over recent years that were scripted exceptionally well. I love knowing exactly what all a fan wants to see me do and hear me say, and then fueling from that to get into character for my performance and personal indulgence. I also have many fans who come back again and again for customs which at a point makes them and their clips memorable to me as well – some have even been ordering from me since I began in 2006!

ZM: What tips do you have for people curious about trying giantess play? What about bringing up interest in giantess kink to a partner?

KB: I would start by grabbing some videos that both look hot from the GIF preview and sound hot from the description. Use those to start exploring and figuring out what you like. There’s tons of free collages, stories, artwork, etc online too. It’ll also help to read through some of my old blog posts as well if you’re super new to your Giantess fetish.

For those more experienced with it and regarding bringing it up to partners, IMO:

If you’re dating around — look for someone who is open-minded, likes learning, and enjoys experiencing new things. You want to find someone who’s going to accept you for who you are, so bring it up when you feel it’s appropriate to do so. (Some may want to mention it on the first date as to not waste time – others after several to feel it out and see if they even like the girl first) Go deeper into it over time as you learn more about each other.

If it’s a lover that you want to open up to after years — if she’s open-minded and familiar with fetishes then you could open up by saying you’ve been shy to tell her or perhaps it’s an old fantasy that’s come back and you want to enjoy it with her. Start by explaining your liking for size difference and if she reacts well, go a little deeper, and ping off anything she finds interesting.

Go into more as she becomes comfortable and used to your fetish.

If she isn’t familiar with fetishes then take baby steps. For example, you can start by treating her to her favorite footwear (if you like crush) or lip product (if you like Vore) and use compliments to tie in your attraction to that part of her body. The next time you’re in the bedroom, mention how she is your Goddess and that you want to worship every part of her while rubbing or kissing her all over. Dip into powerplay where she is in control. Find out what she likes and mix your desires with hers. Teach her what a fetish is. Give ample time for her to learn and understand the fetish as she gets to explore it with you!

ZM: What advice would you give to someone who believes their kinky fantasies are weird or shameful?

KB: Sexuality, porn, and fetishes were once very taboo and thankfully we’re now coming out of that era (especially online and within the fetish industry). Nowadays millions of fetishists have come out online, in magazines, shows, through social media, to their partners, at conventions, etc.

There are ever-growing fetish communities and with that, an amazing variety of fetish content has flourished. An industry has even become of it where professionals, models, artists, and like-minded fetishists want to produce content for you to enjoy! You’re not alone, don’t feel weird or shameful. It’s truly a wonderful time to be living in to embrace and explore your unique sexuality.

Let it add some spice to your life!

ZM: What has being a fetish creator taught you about other people’s desires & sexual psychology?

KB: Everyone has their own tastes and preferences on the finer details of what they like within the genera of their fetish(es)/kinks. One can have multiple desires, those of which could vary in prominence and frequency. For example, it could be the core of one’s sexuality whereas straight-up vanilla acts (sex, oral) may not be a turn-on for them at all. They may need to have their fetish involved in one way or another (think about it, look at material, partake in it) to become aroused and reach climax. Or one could simply have a kink that they perhaps only crave once in a blue moon, or use to add extra excitement to their sex life, and vanilla play could still turn them on in the same manner as someone who doesn’t have any kinks.

Also, it’s totally possible that one may not even realize that they have a fetish or like any kinks until they find it. Or they could end up getting into one through their personal life experiences to come. Everyone’s sexuality is really unique.

More about Giantess Katelyn

I’ve been a giantess fetish content creator for 16 years and going strong! I turn my wet fantasies into high-quality videos and occasionally open for customs. I enjoy scripting, acting, filming, editing, and I manage everything myself. I strive to produce top-quality content utilizing modern gear along with my wild imagination and expertise. I love my fetish, my fans, my business, and I’m here to stay!

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Evie Lupine talks SPH

Evie Lupine dives into a comprehensive look at both the psychological aspects of SPH and its practical application, including beginner and advanced play suggestions. Whether you’re curious about integrating SPH into your dynamic or just seeking to understand more about this aspect of kink, this video offers valuable insights and advice.

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What’s The Fuss About #NoNutNovember?

admin — Mon, 07 Nov 2022 11:47:29 +0000

What’s The Fuss About #NoNutNovember?

By Sunny Megatron

The #NoNutNovember challenge is well underway. Thousands of people (mostly cis men) across the internet have undertaken the ultimate display of willpower and restraint — remaining ejaculation free for 30 days.

There’s nothing wrong with abstaining from masturbation or sex for a month. In fact, BDSM enthusiasts are accustomed to it. Popular kinks like chastity, tease & denial, orgasm control, and edging rely on the bittersweet anticipation that goes hand in hand with delayed, denied, or ruined orgasm.

For kinksters, No Nut November is a welcome excuse to indulge in the kinks we love. Some even consider it “Locktober Part 2.” Many adventurous vanilla folks enjoy it for the kinky aspect too — whether they consciously realize it or not. Others use this fap-fast as a “sexual reset” of sorts hoping to give their sexual arousal and sensitivity levels a boost.

Despite its upsides, No Nut November has some damaging downsides that many eager no-nutters are unaware of. The “No Fap” movement is rooted in purity culture, far-right politics, anti-porn efforts, pseudoscience, and more.

In this video, I unpack No Nut November’s sex-negative ties and introduce ways you can reframe it as what it really is for most of us — a kink. With a little intention, you can still partake in the fun of this horny hiatus without inadvertently endorsing the anti-sex baggage attached to it.

Also, be sure to check out Aiden Starr’s #NoNutNovember message on behalf of the Chastity Dommes of Clips4Sale and their #NoNutNovember Survival Guide.

Video transcript below.

"Do We Tell No Nut November About Locktober?”

“What’s The Fuss About #NoNutNovember?” Video Transcript

It’s November y’all and you better get cracking because you have a lot to do. You have to write an entire book — it’s NaNoWriMo. Also, make sure you go scruffy because it’s #NoShaveNovember. But the most important of all, muster up all of your willpower to refrain from … shaking hands with the milkman. Celebrating Palm Sunday? Choking the chicken? Masturbating! Yes, it is #NoNutNovember and that means 30 days of absolutely no self-pleasure.

I’m Sunny Megatron, Kink and Certified Sexuality Educator and Editor-in-Chief of the BDSM-focused Zipper Magazine. And we need to talk about No Nut November.

I know it sounds fun — 30 days of putting your willpower to the test doing a challenge with everyone else on the internet. But I’m sorry to burst your um, bubbles — but every last bit of No Nut November is a bunch of BS.

If you’re one of my people (shout out to the kinksters) you might be saying, “but wait a minute, didn’t we just finish Locktober? An entire month of restraint and chastity? Yeah. “Isn’t that the same?” No.

Yes, it is true that both Locktober and No Nut November are about not making knuckle sandwiches with extra mayonnaise. But while the climax avoidance of Locktober is full of good-spiritedness and play, No Nut November is steeped in sexual shame.

Shame, you say? “Oh no, giving myself a hand has gotten so out of hand! I feel so humiliated! I think I need to be punished!”

No, no, no, no, no, I’m not talking about the kind of consensually roleplayed shame that we enjoy in kink. No, No Nut November isn’t the quirky internet challenge version of Locktober. It isn’t a “training wheels kind of way” for vanilla folks to explore chastity kink, and it’s not a strategy for couples to put the spark back in their relationship by making their hearts, and parts, grow fonder with absence … and abstinence. And it’s definitely not a movement to raise awareness about peanut allergies. The fact is, No Nut November has some dark, damaging, and dangerous associations that you need to know.

No Nut November is a byproduct of the #NoFap movement, it started in about 2011 on Reddit and spread to places like 4chan. And what kicked it off was a study that said testosterone gets higher with abstinence. That testosterone notion and a bunch of other weird health claims got meshed with the idea that pornography is bad and so is giving into temptation. And that by refraining from self-entertaining, these penis-havers (and a few lucky vulva-havers that can hang) could rid themselves of the evils of pornography addiction. And as a bonus, they’d become more masculine, more attractive, have more self-control, and ultimately become more alpha.

That testosterone study has been retracted and it turns out a lot of the other health claims that these November no-nutters use as talking points — not true either. I’m gonna link a video somewhere by Dr. Rena Malik, debunking the claims that refraining from de-spunking is the healthier option. Plus, there are countless studies, dare I say loads that support the health benefits of masturbation and doing it often.

And the porn addiction thing? The American Psychological Association says that’s not a diagnosis. And they conclude that actually quite often it’s social, cultural, or religious influences that lead people to believe that their very normal desires, fantasies, and curiosities are an evil addiction.

And I’m just gonna cut to the chase — No Nut November has been co-opted by the far right. Underneath the surface, No Nut November’s messaging is anti-porn, anti-sexual freedom, misogynistic, conservative, purity culture, ultra-religious propaganda wrapped up in memorable hashtags, funny memes, and the appeal of a social media challenge that makes you feel like you’re a part of something big, a community!

I’m gonna put more links about all that stuff in the description. But there’s something I got to get to. If all that dropped on you like a ton of bricks and you’re like, “womp womp — I kind of like No Nut November. I don’t know why, I just find it kind of fun and exciting.” Don’t worry, I got you!

Those of us in the BDSM community call what you’re feeling a kink. And that kink is chastity play. And also don’t forget its very close cousins, edging and orgasm control. In fact, the kink community just had its chastity month. It’s called Locktober. So I’m proposing instead of endorsing all of the questionable stuff that’s packaged along with the fun of No Nut November, why don’t y’all come on over to the kink side? Let’s extend Locktober another month!

So what is chastity? On the surface, it does sort of seem like what we do with No Nut November. The subject of traditional chastity is usually someone with external genitalia. But don’t worry, they’re not the only ones that get to indulge in the fun. But those that do oftentimes wear one of these, a chastity device to keep all that stuff locked up with a little lock and key. Isn’t it cute?

For partnered chastity subs, they’ll give the key to their partner and they’ll both engage in some Dominant/submissive play and exchange, and tease and denial throughout the month, or week, or however long they’re doing their chastity session for. Some engage in chastity solo. There’s all sorts of tips and tricks that you can use to have all the fun with yourself. There’s even apps you can use, all sorts of things. Other solo chastity subs sometimes choose to meet people online and engage in long-distance chastity play using all sorts of technology, video software, and lots of delicious things.

So now are you like, “wait a minute, so chastity and Locktober is just like No Nut November, but you have to buy gear?! No.

In kink, we are “consensually and intentionally perverting social norms and hierarchies for our pleasure.” Kinks like chastity are a form of play. Think of it as a game. And in that game, there might be humiliation or activities and behaviors that from the outside, look oppressive.

“You’re so bad! You’re such a loser! I can’t trust you because you’re always distracted by your selfish, self-indulgent, touching yourself, yuck!” That’s just an example. But it can take on many flavors. But even if that feels real at the time that it’s going on, it’s not real. It’s really an elaborate roleplay that you’ve negotiated ahead of time that you’ve set limits for parameters for. You’ve told your partner what your desires are, and worked together to create that fantasy experience.

With No Nut November, it’s real. You are really putting down those who act on their very normal and healthy sexual desires. You’re really actually saying that you believe adult entertainment is the root of all evil, and you’re really supporting organizations and movements that have visions of fascism dancing in their heads. No Nut November isn’t a kink. It isn’t a roleplay. It isn’t an improvisational fantasy storyline that you’re living out for fun. That’s the difference.

So what’s the appeal of chastity? So much! And it’s different for everyone. I’ll give you a couple of the common ones.

Anticipation: Now think about the important role that anticipation plays in your life. Anticipating that something good and significant is about to happen is joy juice for our brains. It might be anticipating that last piece of delicious cheesecake that you saved. It could be waiting all season to see the finale of your favorite show. It might be watching Dr. Pimple Popper trying to get that … you know — you hate it, but you gotta see it! You’re like “come on” and you’re like, “yes!” You know … you know. Or it might be climax.

When we prolong getting to the resolution of that built-up anticipation, sometimes gives us like, kind of a mental sadomasochistic high. Neurotransmitters and stuff. That giddy euphoric feeling of anticipation, even when it’s mixed with frustration in a playful, consensual way, can feel really good, especially over a long period of time.

Like if you’re wearing chastity for a week, a month, longer, it serves as a distraction and infuses some dopamine and enjoyment in your otherwise mundane day-to-day. And anticipating this positive event, everything becomes heightened — and when it’s something sexual and that becomes heightened? Hello!

Another reason: flipping the normative power script. Even though anybody can be a chastity sub, or a keyholder, or dominant in this situation no matter of their gender or anything else — when we’re talking more traditional chastity and keyholding, we often see that with heterosexual couples, where the man is the person who is the chastity sub, and the woman is the one who holds the key and calls the shots. Do you know what a rush it is to subvert traditional gender norms to challenge patriarchal ideas about sex and who controls it? Who desires it and who calls the shots, just flipping out on its head, hoo — that can be a rush for everybody involved.

And wearing a chastity device: That’s like extended foreplay that you can never relieve. So it just keeps building and building. You know, you feel it all the time. It’s a constant reminder of your commitments of your partner who cares about you, of you being naughty and being punished, or whatever gets your brain going. Also, it’s your dirty little secret. You’re out at the grocery store, you’re at work, no one knows what you’re wearing under your clothes. But you do. You can feel it and it’s always on your mind.

And for couples, playing with chastity can be sensual, it can get you out of that same old, same old rut. You know, put the spice back in your relationship. Because when you’re in chastity, that doesn’t mean you still can’t experience or give pleasure. You just have to be creative and do it in different ways. It expands your idea of what pleasure can be because intercourse and erections are off the table. That can remove sexual pressure and performance expectations. You don’t always have to be [rock hard]. And then you get to experiment with toys, mental arousal, physical arousal that doesn’t require ‘the thing’, all sorts of things. It gets couples not just talking about new ways to play, it forces them to do it.

There’s a lot more about chastity that I can’t fit in this video. So think of this as something to whet your whistle. You know, as an introduction to pique your interest, to get your curiosity going. I want you to head on over to zippermagazine.com to read more about orgasm control, and chastity, and also D/s and other kinks. There’s a lot there.

Plus, we have a resource library called Kinktopia, where if you find a particular kink or fetish that you’re really into, we’ve got all the books, we’ve got all the podcasts, all the YouTubes — all the places you can go to learn more about that thing.

If you’re not cool with all of the baggage that comes along with No Nut November but you would still kind of dig a … heavy sack? I don’t know, I tried to make a baggage pun! Did that translate? I don’t know! But anyway, that’s okay. But let’s call it what it is. It’s a kink. So now you know what to do. Let’s get you into chastity!

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Do We Tell No Nut November About Locktober?

admin — Wed, 02 Nov 2022 10:11:19 +0000

Do We Tell No Nut November About Locktober?

Superficially the two are quite similar. Both feature restraint from ejaculation for a month. But whereas Locktober adherents celebrate the pleasure of denial and submission, No Nut November is joyless sex shame. According to No Nut November followers, resistance to pornography and masturbation — really any ejaculation — makes you more virile, more powerful socially, and more attractive to hot women. And not just that: Better hair! Clearer skin! Success at work!

For these true believers, No Nut November is a physical reboot, in which you cast out porn and masturbation for ever and transfer into the Alpha Male superman of yore (cue up the Wagner.)

The pseudoscientific claims have all been repeatedly debunked, but like Pumpkin Spice Latte, All I Want for Christmas, and a cold sore, they seem to come back year after year. That’s why this year, Clips4Sale put together a survival guide to No Nut November, as well as the “handy” explainer for us to help you — the innocent bystander — tell the difference.

Thankfully, they’re joined by femdom fatale Aiden Starr, just wiping her hands of her Locktober duties, to give them an expert’s take on preventing erections. Because while we’d never dissuade anyone the exquisite denial of pleasure, we’ll fight shame with all we’ve got.

Into the tease & denial of #NoNutNovember but not the pseudoscience & purity culture vibes?

In BDSM we call #NoFap what it is – A CHASTITY KINK!

Intrigued? @AidenStarr gives us a taste of playful, healthy, tantalizing #ChastityPlay. pic.twitter.com/Saihj8Becm
— Zipper Magazine (@ZipperMagDotcom) November 2, 2022

The C4S No Nut November Survival Guide

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Pet Play 101 With Evie Lupine

admin — Thu, 27 Oct 2022 17:47:15 +0000

Pet Play 101 With Evie Lupine

Featuring Evie Lupine

Halloween is the perfect time to indulge in erotic roleplay. Creative playfulness is top of mind plus costumes, wigs, and props are at our fingertips. If pony play, puppy play, or any other pet play kink has you curious as a cat, we’ve got you covered!

Youtuber and BDSM Educator Evie Lupine partnered with Zipper Magazine this month for this Pet Play 101 video guide.

Who is Evie Lupine?

Evie Lupine is an asexual kink educator and YouTuber who first began her journey into the lifestyle about 7 years ago. In that time, she’s been a 24/7 collared submissive, a petplayer, a bondage freak, and an occasional sadist. Her passion for learning as well as her diverse interests within kink naturally led her in the direction of helping others with their own discovery processes. She focuses on supporting folks developing happier, healthier relationships while separating the fantasy from the reality of doing BDSM everyday.

Where to Find Evie Lupine

Pet Play 101 With Evie Lupine Video Transcript

Hello, everyone. My name is Evie Lupine. And today we’re here with Zipper Magazine to talk about how to get into pet play.

Right now we’re getting into the Halloween season, which means there are a ton of great costumes out there like black cats and werewolves, that would be ideal for starting to experiment with pet play for the first time. However, before we get into ideas for getting into pet play, let’s talk about exactly what pet play is, just to make sure we’re all on the same page.

Pet play is a form of animal roleplay done in a BDSM context, where one or more of the participants takes on the role of being a pet. And there are a ton of motivations and activities associated with pet play. A lot of people enjoy it because it can be a form of stress relief, it can be really relaxing, it can also be super bonding with a partner in a romantic relationship. And there’s tons of other reasons.

Some of the activities that people associate with pet play include things like trick and treat training, walking on a leash, using bondage instruments, such as fist mitts or caging; vocal restrictions, eating from a bowl or playing on the floor, or even things that are just super simple like cuddling up with your partner on the couch, resting your head against their lap, while you just have them stroke you and pet you and they talk to you and tell you you’re a good girl or a good boy in that really like cutesy baby animal voice if you know what I’m talking about.

So there’s tons of things that go into pet play and tons of different motivations. But one of the first things that people think about with pet play is: okay, what can you actually be in pet play?

And I would say as far as BDSM goes, there are three main types of pets you will see within the community. Number one would be puppy play, then there’s also kitten play and pony play. And there are some stereotypical associations that people make with these pets. They think: Oh, only gay men can be puppies; only cishet women are ever kittens. And that is totally not the case. Pet play is open to anyone of any gender, any background, any orientation.

I myself, despite these ears, looking like kitten ears, to some people, I am a female pet player. And I know male kitten players, I know people all across the spectrum that do all different types of pet play.

It also doesn’t have to be just those three main things. People also are cows and pigs and raccoons and dragons and foxes and mer-creatures and all sorts of stuff. So it’s really only limited by your imagination and what you personally want to do not any kind of like BDSM ruleset. Don’t be afraid to experiment. But at the same time, it can be daunting. How do I know what kind of pet I might want to be? Maybe everything sounds appealing and you want to narrow it down.

Or maybe you’re like, I mean, it sounds like a cool idea. But I don’t really know what might work for me. And so I would start by looking at the associations you make with different types of pets. Do you think about a royal lap dog or a hunting hound or a strong work horse or a bratty kitten? Of those things you associate, do any of them mesh with you? Do they resonate with you personally? Do they match your personality? Do they seem like something that would be fun to play? It can really just be as simple as that.

But if that really isn’t popping up with any answers, you might want to ask your partner, your friends: “Hey, if I was an animal, what kind of animal would I be?” Maybe that’ll give you a place to start. Also, if you do other types of BDSM —though you don’t have to — pet play is a great way for getting into BDSM and exploring different areas within that outside of just roleplay.

But if you do have other types of BDSM that you already engage in, a lot of people do find that certain animal head spaces mesh really well with other kinks they have or power exchange relationships that they have. A lot of people for example, that are brats or littles find that a kitten headspace works for them. People that are into service might also mesh well with being a puppy or a pony. People that are into humiliation play resonate with being a pig or a cow. There’s tons of different areas within that. Those are some ways that you can start to explore “Okay, what kind of pet might I want to be?” But really, you might not know until you actually get started. Instead of worrying about “Oh my gosh, I’ve got to pick the right pet to do the right thing,” just don’t worry about it. Try it out. Start slowly and if it works, keep going with it. If it doesn’t speak to you try something else take a break. Come back to it later.

But the really key thing here is: “Okay, if I want to do pet play, how can I get into actually doing that? What do I need to have?”

To say this right off the bat: gear is not required for pet play. If you don’t want it, if you can’t afford it — any reason — you do not have to buy gear. But a lot of people really enjoy it, and they find it helps them more easily get into the type of headspace they want to be in.

This is where Halloween comes into it. Because now is like the best, most covert time for getting things like ears or tails or maybe certain prosthetics or a mask or maybe a full body suit. This is a really great time, especially if you can get like secondhand Halloween stuff. It’s a great opportunity for trying out pet play for the first time, or trying out different head spaces.

This also goes for people that are into being on the other side of the slash with a pet player being a pet owner, trainer, Master, etc. Great time for getting things like farmer’s outfits or like a police handler’s outfit if you want to do police, police dog, canine roleplay, there are lots of options for that as well.

Now if you’re watching this and it’s outside of Halloween, the next most obvious thing to try is a pet store or a tack and feed store if you are more on the barnyard/pony-play side of the spectrum. And with that do not go to the store in your roleplay headspace; go in as an everyday functional adult human being. Just go there and see what seems interesting. You can get stuff like animal bowls, leashes, leads, collars — you can also get things like animal beds or cages. If you get a cage-like Great Dane size, it’ll probably work for most people. If you want to go more in that direction with your pet play. You can get things like cones of shame. I think these have a name besides that. But if you’re into again, that humiliation play or medical play, this can be a really good way to incorporate that into your animal roleplay headspace. And also if you want to go more like a cozy, cuddly direction, kind of low-key, this can also be a good way obviously to get things like chew toys or animal beds. And you can just have one on the floor next to your couch and have that be the way that you do your pet play.

Just being a couch potato is a totally valid way of doing pet play. But if you do want to take things to that next level, there are obviously ways to do that that are kind of outside of the scope of this video. But I will say though, there are parties and activities, things you can go to that are centered around being a pet player — dungeon nights, things like that — if you are getting into this for the first time, I do recommend doing this at home in a space you know pretty well. Because as Love and Leashes so wonderfully showed us, it can be unexpectedly deep the first time you get into really, really getting into an animal headspace.

You don’t want to start messing up other people’s furniture or chasing other dogs at the pet play event. So before you really know how you’re going to react when you are in your own headspace, I would keep it low-key, keep it simple, and try it at home first or in a safe space that you know fairly well.

Also, I will say that though most people do pet play in a relationship in a dynamic, you can do it solo, you can start to do this on your own by yourself. It might feel a little bit awkward, but you can totally get into your own headspace by yourself, play by yourself and get to know your pet side even when you don’t necessarily have a partner. If you don’t want to use any gear at all, if you want to keep this really low-key and low-budget, that is totally valid.

With that, I would think about things like trick training or vocal restrictions; maybe setting it up so, today from 4pm when I get home from work until 10pm, the only noise you can make is whatever noise your chosen animal makes. No English, no human sounds, just animal sounds. That can be really, really challenging, but also fun. And again, you can also do things like just putting cushions on the floor, and then having that be a makeshift pet bed.

Just use your imagination, get creative, and do what feels right to you.

Don’t worry about appearances. Don’t worry about, “Oh my gosh, am I doing this right?” Just let the headspace come out naturally, and listen to what your body and mind are telling you. And as long as everything is consensual and negotiated. that’s all good, that’s what really matters.

So that is all I have to say about how to get into pet play. There’s so much within this topic. If you guys want to hear more about that. I do have that on my YouTube channel. And again, thank you so so much to Zipper for making this possible and I will talk to you again very soon.

Bye!

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